People tell me i'm beautiful but i'm still insecure?

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But i have to constant urge to be told i'm beautiful its honestly so sad

Hello I think that's your problem - that you rely heavily on other people to affirm your beauty. If you rely on other people to do that you then also give them the power to control how you feel about yourself. Of course we all enjoy being complimented which is fine but try not to make that the source of your confidence.

All that really matters is how you see yourself. You can get praised by others all day and night but if you can't look into the mirror and say those same words to yourself sincerely then you will always feel empty.

It's tough I know. I've been working on this for a very long time myself and trying to dissociate my physical body from the person I truly am and I'm probably half way there. Also being 'recovered' from eating disorders I can't tell you how difficult it is to accept my body now at a 'healthy' weight.

Learn to appreciate your beauty because as clichéd as it sounds it won't last forever. However also realise that beauty is not everything the more you focus and develop other aspects of yourself the better you feel about yourself as a whole. It may sound a bit abstract to your issues but I really recommend taking on some volunteer work if you don't already. During recovery I did a lot of volunteer work and reached out to people who really needed me and I saw that I had value way beyond my physical appearance and other attributes that drew people closer. Nowadays I prefer a compliment like 'you're so brave' or 'you inspire me' or 'thank you for being so helpful' as they mean so much more than 'you are beautiful'.... That's just the cherry on top

The process of self-acceptance is a tough one... But work consciously on it everyday and you'll go far!

Good luck!

Thanks so much i'll continue to work on it and i hope you get to your end goal in your own journey of self-acceptance

Btw do you care about what others think of you anymore?

Thanks so much i'll continue to work on it and i hope you get to your end goal in your own journey of self-acceptance

Btw do you care about what others think of you anymore?

All girls have insecurities. I have one friend that is absolutely stunning (I'm talkin 11/10) and she can be so incredibly insecure about her appearance sometimes it's hard to believe.

is she attention seeking?

ah the old adage 'stop relying on external validation!" the problem is when you think about it that it's only the need for moderated external validation which prevents you from delusions of grandeur and in some cases delusions about reality itself. For example, if no-one is to tell me that I am not a god, what is to stop me from ruling my reign of terror over all you mere mortals? I shall fire my lightning bolts from the sky and crush you with my fingertips for there is no objective reality, only my subjective dominion.

I am playing devil's advocate OP I am sure ur a beaut :0 :0 :0 :0 :0

This argument is so stupid that I'm not even sure I want to tell you why.

OP just roll with that vulnerability, make it work for you. Don't go desperately seeking validation from other people. Let validation come to you and accept it but don't seek it out.