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Cost of a relationship

How do you guys manage to finance it? paying for meals/gifts/travel all add up overtime and its a cost I wouldn't have if I were single. I have a job but I would rather save than spend on an unecessary cost.

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blondyx
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Unnecessary? You don't need to be buying gifts etc for just no reason. If you don't want to spend alot on a girl then don't. If she loves you she won't expect you to pay for everything. You could do half an half.

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Don't do it man, it's not worth it. I wasted thousands of pounds on an ungrateful skank who pissed all over me. I'm telling you, don't start wasting money on her, you'll regret it. I could be a couple thousand pounds richer now, but I'm an idiot. Seriously man, it's not worth it on a worthless skank ho.

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Lwin
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Dude, if she likes you she won't expect ridiculous amounts of cash being spent on her. Small cheap presents like say chocolate you know she likes once in a while doesn't hurt, but even that's not necessary. And for more expensive outings like restaurants, etc. she should be ok splitting the bill. Most girls realise people on tsr aren't made of money.
I don't expect my boyfriend to constantly pay for me. He doesn't earn much so it would just be unfair. When we go out we usually split the bill.
If you're paying for everything then get rid of her, she's having a free ride and she'll know this.
You shouldn't have what you can't afford. If the relationship doesn't involve extra costs, you can do it, but if it does and you'd rather save the money for something else, it's clearly not a relationship worth having, by your own judgement.

It's not compulsory. Maybe not applicable as much to relationships, but with children certainly, there's nothing more infuriating than people complaining about the financial cost, as if someone knocked on their door one day and threw a child in their house.

Take responsibility.
A real girlfriend should want your time not your money.
Because when you go out you go somewhere within your means, not the most expensive place, you split the bill; you don't necessarily have to give that many gifts, it's like saying "how do you manage having a sibling, that's an extra person to buy things for", and at the same time you should also be receiving, and travel is variable and, again, should be split costs
I save loads of money being in a relationship... half the rent, half the bills, more socialising in the house which is cheaper. Definitely the way to go.
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khyuma
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Original post by C_tinie_D
If you're paying for everything then get rid of her, she's having a free ride and she'll know this.


we used to split bills until I got a job that pays more than hers- now everything is on me.
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Lwin
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Original post by khyuma
we used to split bills until I got a job that pays more than hers- now everything is on me.


Break out the calculator and figure out how you'd both be paying a similar percentage of your wages towards bills. You'd still be paying more overall, but it would still be fairer than you having to pay all of it. That's how my parents sorted it out.
Original post by Lwin
Break out the calculator and figure out how you'd both be paying a similar percentage of your wages towards bills. You'd still be paying more overall, but it would still be fairer than you having to pay all of it. That's how my parents sorted it out.


This.

This is exactly how I sorted out my parents financial issues when it came to deciding how much each person contributes towards the bills.

It's really not hard.
Easy you just don't date a self absorbed entitled princess. My ex spent basically nothing on me, it was me who spent money on him.
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catsis
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Socialising IS expensive. It's probably why I like being alone so much.
Original post by khyuma
we used to split bills until I got a job that pays more than hers- now everything is on me.


Get rid of her.
Original post by khyuma
How do you guys manage to finance it? paying for meals/gifts/travel all add up overtime and its a cost I wouldn't have if I were single. I have a job but I would rather save than spend on an unecessary cost.
if youre homeless sure. otherwise I reckon personally having a long term gf/wife/god knows what is something money cant buy and something you should go for

money doesnt equate to happiness so why not take in all the factors that influence happiness rather than focusing on money itself


Original post by Illegal Algebra
Don't do it man, it's not worth it. I wasted thousands of pounds on an ungrateful skank who pissed all over me. I'm telling you, don't start wasting money on her, you'll regret it. I could be a couple thousand pounds richer now, but I'm an idiot. Seriously man, it's not worth it on a worthless skank ho.

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thought you were dating someone recently....and hmmm still as an adult you realise you took a risk and this time it didnt pay off.but honestly without knowing the outcome would you not do the same again? maybe go easy on the money...

Original post by Lwin
Dude, if she likes you she won't expect ridiculous amounts of cash being spent on her. Small cheap presents like say chocolate you know she likes once in a while doesn't hurt, but even that's not necessary. And for more expensive outings like restaurants, etc. she should be ok splitting the bill. Most girls realise people on tsr aren't made of money.
thats the thing.its paying for hotels/holidays and stuff.you book it and then its fair awkward to be asking for the money. I think some girls could be a bit more open to paying 50 50


Original post by Flying Cookie
You shouldn't have what you can't afford. If the relationship doesn't involve extra costs, you can do it, but if it does and you'd rather save the money for something else, it's clearly not a relationship worth having, by your own judgement.

It's not compulsory. Maybe not applicable as much to relationships, but with children certainly, there's nothing more infuriating than people complaining about the financial cost, as if someone knocked on their door one day and threw a child in their house.

Take responsibility.
I agree but I think its a risk worth taking.

Original post by SophieSmall
Easy you just don't date a self absorbed entitled princess. My ex spent basically nothing on me, it was me who spent money on him.
haha not as simple as you make it.
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haha not as simple as you make it.


Actually it really is that simple.
Original post by SophieSmall
Actually it really is that simple.
haha agree to disagree.

how are yeh these days btw?
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CJKay
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Original post by catsis
Socialising IS expensive. It's probably why I like being alone so much.


+1, all the suggestions here are "split the bill", but it's not like you're suddenly getting it all for free. Now you're just paying what you would be paying if you were single.

Original post by SophieSmall
Actually it really is that simple.


I'm sure he's very happy that you have such a wide variety of men, but it doesn't sound quite like he has that opportunity.
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