Cost of a relationship

+1, all the suggestions here are "split the bill", but it's not like you're suddenly getting it all for free. Now you're just paying what you would be paying if you were single.



I'm sure he's very happy that you have such a wide variety of men, but it doesn't sound quite like he has that opportunity.

haha agree to disagree.

how are yeh these days btw?

Fair enough, you keep on paying more than you should have to out of stubbornness

same old same old

what haha hmmm il tell her to bring extra money as she owes me 35 quid as make into a joke so not as awkward

feck her if she looks down on me for it..its my parents money not mine..wouldnt overly mind otherwise

but yeh me right yesh

If she looks down on your for it then she's clearly a ****.

fair enough.im torn.genuinelly dont mind spending money on women to a certain extent.its just as im not completely self funding itd be my parents money im spending in reality so meh

so what is same old same old?

+1, all the suggestions here are "split the bill", but it's not like you're suddenly getting it all for free. Now you're just paying what you would be paying if you were single.

I think the moment it becomes a problem is when the person who is having money spent on them starts expecting it and loses gratitude and stops being grateful. If you don't mind spending money on her then fair enough, but don't complain you have to when you don't

just university stooof

whats with the rando wink!p and yeh well go 50:50 anymore.its official.im a closeted stinge haha

not cool to know the top secret info fair enough

Just cause :3
haha, I've always been a bit of a stinge, not even ashamed.

fecking heating up in here.but yeh dont do that...il bite you

oh yeh I was horrid for it.honestly im not a massive spender and always been good with money so money no longer interests me much.its just forking out stuff for your loved one can lead to relationship imbalances...especially at our age

Nope.

It can lead to relationship imbalances definitely, but it certainly doesn't have to. If anything I'd say it's less likely to lead to imbalances at our age because the amount of money each partner has is probably similar. It's more likely to lead to imbalances once you get into much longer term relationships, marriage etc. In which one partner may have a higher paying job and the other partner may be a full time housewife and mother...in which case it comes to the question of how much of a difference in money contribution towards things such as dates, and presents is fair considering the vast difference in income and responsibilities.

haha nope p

id say the opposite.

I mean its often our parents money at our age.secondly as you say we earn the same generally so it makes it all the more dodge when someone pays more.

whereas as you get older and wages change etc... you accept that the other person doesnt have as much and its a part of everyday life.its your money too so it affects you only. many older long term relationships have a decent difference in income so it makes sense and is expected whereas at our age its the same wage and there little reason for the other half not paying their way

But my argument was no one at our age HAS to pay more we seem to be arguing the same thing now...

you dont have to do anything except die

in reality a fair amount of girls expect/are put off when the lad pays.simples ...I want a meerkat toy:I

and pay taxes

Easy you just don't date a self absorbed entitled princess. My ex spent basically nothing on me, it was me who spent money on him.