I never seem to get called good looking or intelligent, this makes me feel sad :(

There are few worse things than to be both undesirable and useless.

Nice spot of sexism there. Guys like you complain when you get sympathy compliments - "omg its so patronising when girls tell me I'm sweet" - yet when someone is actually honest and most importantly constructive, you don't want to hear it.

Your bitterness aside, what I said is true. It's all about basic branding - what separates you from every other person out there? You can't put a can of blank white label beans on the shelf and expect it to sell. In other words it's rare for people who make no effort to get compliments.

I work out, I have a 2.1 from an RG, I play 3 musical instruments, I'm training to be a teacher, I have played in bands and choirs, I'm.trained in first aid, I read a lot, I have done public readings, I have climbed Snowdon, I have been on the news.and performed with the Philharmonic in an arena, I have been to Berlin and Moscow. But this is not good enough it can never be good enough

So ylu admit sympathy compliments are lies?

I think you need therapy. By which standards are you measuring 'good enough'?? What, for you, would be 'good enough' ?

Looks Money Status
Demonstration of financial and emotional security
bestowal of inherent virtues onto others eg partner

I work out, I have a 2.1 from an RG, I play 3 musical instruments, I'm training to be a teacher, I have played in bands and choirs, I'm.trained in first aid, I read a lot, I have done public readings, I have climbed Snowdon, I have been on the news.and performed with the Philharmonic in an arena, I have been to Berlin and Moscow. But this is not good enough it can never be good enough

So ylu admit sympathy compliments are lies?

People delude themselves that they're better than tbey are all the time for ego and self esteem preservation.

You didn't, some other guy did, I mentioned someone told me to kill myself in the past while laughing anf how perhapd tbat is my fault for being a maghot which is what jnspored me i to my self improvement splurge which came to a crashing halt in 2010

Are you drunk at the wheel?

I think you need therapy. By which standards are you measuring 'good enough'?? What, for you, would be 'good enough' ?

I work out, I have a 2.1 from an RG, I play 3 musical instruments, I'm training to be a teacher, I have played in bands and choirs, I'm.trained in first aid, I read a lot, I have done public readings, I have climbed Snowdon, I have been on the news.and performed with the Philharmonic in an arena, I have been to Berlin and Moscow. But this is not good enough it can never be good enough

So ylu admit sympathy compliments are lies?

Are you drunk at the wheel?

Probably typing while he's driving. Or he's got huge thumbs.

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No. I don't think of my life as 'relatively insignificant' just because I am not complimented on my looks or intelligence. I have no doubt that I will be forgotten by millions, if they knew me, but those that do remember me, aka my family and friends, is what matters to me.

Don't be a teacher then. Go into something with more money and buy yourself a new face

You sounded amazing up until the part in bold which is where you fall down. You have an inferiority complex; it is only you who feels it is not good enough. This then leads to diminished confidence, which then makes any of your plus points obsolete. People probably see your poor attitude and low confidence first before they've even got to know all the good stuff about you.

Sympathy compliments aren't always lies necessarily, but they don't address people's failings. Like it's very possible for a guy to be both sweet and socially inept. If you only tell him he's sweet you're not helping him understand that he needs to improve his social skills as well which is why I believe in tough love

That's the way it goes.

The main compliments I seem to receive from the few people that I know is that I'm nice/lovely/sweet/friendly/funny but yeah seemingly never the aforementioned two qualities, it would just make me feel kinda good if people could say that I'm handsome or intelligent as well (& preferably not family or older people to be totally honest). Anyway I dunno why I made this thread really Anyone else who can empathise perhaps?...

Same! I don't feel bad about it though. I'm never going to be a stunner but that doesn't matter in the long run.[/QUOTE]

why doesn't it matter?