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this story has upset me and made me worry again

So I was reading/Googling those stories

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and it has upset me, made me think. In the latest story a chubby wife in a happy relationship with a fairly athletic husband wants to spice up her love life by getting in shape after witnessing her friend benefit from weight loss with a ruthless personal trainer. Basically she does not feel attractive enough for him although she trusts he loves her. The woman seeks the help of said PT, who is described as an absolutely stunning fitness model; however the PT is rather the bitch, narcissistic as hell, completely indifferent to said wife and charges her extra than her average clients for working with her.

The PT works wife like a dog in training, shouting abuse at her about the physical and mental state she's in and how she's so much lesser than the PT. The PT preys on the wife's fears of her husband leaving to 'motivate' her, saying it's likely that if she fails to lose a few pounds his eyes will wander; this enrages the insecure wife into giving it her all. The PT eventually concedes to give her a 'magic weight loss pill' as a supplement to benefit diet and training. She says it's a reward for her efforts which she did not see before-however what wife does not know until the end that these are actually weight gain pills the PT has given her to sabotage her efforts.

While the wife is gaining weight and losing progress the stunning dominatrix approaches her hubbie, seduces him and turns him against his wife. The wife is reduced to tears as she says her husband has fallen in lust with the PT and exclaims 'I want your babies!' to the model. Ex-wife runs away, sinks into a depression and gains even more weight now comfort-eating from her frustration at all her exercise and diet efforts being in vain. Finally the PT/model sends her regular sex tapes of her bonking her ex husband, how much they are both enjoying it particularly him, how he has completely forgotten about her despite all the years they were together and in the last video the evidence that she has indeed become pregnant with her.

The wife concludes that it is actually entirely her own fault that her husband left, that it is a natural thing to do, loyalties and love do not come into the equation, and that the PT deserved him because she was indeed better looking than her ergo 'more worthy of him and stronger than her' in her mind. She is just jealous and rightly so because PT is (to her, now, broken inside) 'better than her'. The story ends from the PT"s perspective in delight about, ironically, now her hubby softening her heart to more tender emotions and compassion, and loving her baby-but none of this is applying to fat ex-wife, who deserves pain and misery, hence sending vicious sex tapes. The final sentence is 'our babies grew up beautiful and smart and tough'.

I cannot link the story because it's adult content….

I do not like these stories. I know that this has had a negative effect on my mental health by ruining my first relationship a year ago (and negative physical effect as I'm sleep deprived at present), but I can't stop. In fact I sense, fear there is some truth in what it says :frown: do normal people behave like this? I made a thread recently about how I think the more conventionally attractive someone is the more society lets them off for crapping on people and this seems a prime example…not to mention it fits perfectly in with that depressing principle 'attraction is amoral'.

It was around the time that I started reading these stories every night (combined with weaning off Fluoxetine too early without GP's consent) that my account went haywire with threads related to these issues. These stories and trolls on here.

Original post by catsis
What the level of arrogance are we talking about here? I like a guy a bit too assured of himself and overly confident.


PT's level of arrogance.
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Which one is you?
This is bull**** man. I wouldn't leave anyone I loved even if I deemed someone else better. Chemistry and connection matters a lot. Also, some random woman trying to seduce you and treating your wife like crap? That's more than enough reason to tell her to piss off.
My gf Is chubby I like it she's nice to snuggle never been into thin women don't find them attractive.

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Hi OP.
What I'm reading here is that you feel high levels of worry and anxiety, when you contemplate whether people can be so very harsh and cruel to one another. Am I along the right lines? Please do feel free to correct me.
Original post by cole-slaw
Which one is you?


Well I'll be chubby wife except i'm skinny
Original post by Protégé
This is bull**** man. I wouldn't leave anyone I loved even if I deemed someone else better. Chemistry and connection matters a lot. Also, some random woman trying to seduce you and treating your wife like crap? That's more than enough reason to tell her to piss off.



Original post by Rugar Rell
My gf Is chubby I like it she's nice to snuggle never been into thin women don't find them attractive.

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I hear these things but these days struggle to believe it :/


Original post by Smash Bandicoot
Well I'll be chubby wife except i'm skinny



Original post by Revebjelle
Hi OP.
What I'm reading here is that you feel high levels of worry and anxiety, when you contemplate whether people can be so very harsh and cruel to one another. Am I along the right lines? Please do feel free to correct me.


Yes the risk of opening up your heart to an abuser fills me with terror :frown:
You're too negative, think neutral.
Original post by Protégé
You're too negative, think neutral.


What is neutral here?
that is sad.

sloots gonna sloot
Original post by lustawny
You sound butthurt.


behold the human condition!
Original post by Smash Bandicoot
behold the human condition!


You haven't even provided a link to this so-called story; how do I know this isn't a troll? How do I know you're not a troll, for that matter?

Also, I'm struggling to believe somebody would be stupid enough to actually take that kind of abuse from a slaggy harpy like that (whether training to lose weight, or not). Why didn't she just walk out? Does she actually prefer being shouted at like a piece of ****, and walked all over? If she does, that's pretty saddening.
Original post by lustawny
You haven't even provided a link to this so-called story; how do I know this isn't a troll? How do I know you're not a troll, for that matter?

Also, I'm struggling to believe somebody would be stupid enough to actually take that kind of abuse from a slaggy harpy like that (whether training to lose weight, or not). Why didn't she just walk out? Does she actually prefer being shouted at like a piece of ****, and walked all over? If she does, that's pretty saddening.


It's a porn story tbf...but maybe people are like that irl :/ :/ :/
Reply 13
Well if that was real she could absolutely sue the crap out of her for giving her medication and lying about what it is.

But yeah thats nonsense. Some people are dicks and some people cheat, but people are rarely that heartless.
Original post by Smash Bandicoot
It's a porn story tbf...but maybe people are like that irl :/ :/ :/


So it's not even a real-life occurrence? That doesn't exactly make your concerns all the more convincing, you know. Not all good-looking individuals lack morals. Even if there are people out there like that, though, why can't you focus on the good-natured people? At the moment, you just come across as being really pessimistic and cynical.
Original post by lustawny
So it's not even a real-life occurrence? That doesn't exactly make your concerns all the more convincing, you know. Not all good-looking individuals lack morals. Even if there are people out there like that, though, why can't you focus on the good-natured people? At the moment, you just come across as being really pessimistic and cynical.


The OP is expressing anxiety, and mentions an SSRI (anti depressant/OCD) withdrawal. He's clearly suffering through a mix of emotional, biochemical issues and has read some stuff which has triggered his anxieties and compulsions. Offered politely and respectfully: he is struggling with mental health issues, and like all people with such, he may benefit from some kindness, rather than judgement.
Original post by Smash Bandicoot
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Let's flip it so the PT is a male and the husband is the fat one and the wife is the skinny one in the situation of a typical male

I know I'll probably get reported for saying this, but the PT is a jerk and I would kill him if I could. The wife (in the above FLIPPED situation) should be ashamed for lusting over the PT as well

Smash, if someone truly loves you, they won't "wander off" if you're with them. And I'm sure you'll find someone Smash
Reply 17
I don't get it... why did you tag me on this considering my answer was given in a completely different circumstance?

PT wasn't arrogant, she was an evil bitch.
Original post by catsis
I don't get it... why did you tag me on this considering my answer was given in a completely different circumstance?

PT wasn't arrogant, she was an evil bitch.


but that's sort of acceptable if she's hot and successful isn't it (going back to my earlier thread). The attraction is amoral principle comes into play
Original post by zhang-liao
Let's flip it so the PT is a male and the husband is the fat one and the wife is the skinny one in the situation of a typical male

I know I'll probably get reported for saying this, but the PT is a jerk and I would kill him if I could. The wife (in the above FLIPPED situation) should be ashamed for lusting over the PT as well

Smash, if someone truly loves you, they won't "wander off" if you're with them. And I'm sure you'll find someone Smash


she pissed me off too but one cannot defy hypergamy. I don't want to get too deep because I may mentally scar you my friend

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