Friendzone a myth or fact ?

the friendzone doesn't exist, got out of it twice.

Yes you will, especially if you hang out with internationals in a London uni - plenty of 'abnormal' people to hang out with

Probably not, it's rare for guys to friendzone (attractive) girls completely, we're too driven

Makes sense then I guess, although you seem sensible enough to me and I expect it would be more of a romantic adventure to try some other university towns..

Haha, a unicorn indeed? Not sure how apt that is, given the apparent lack of 'horn'

In our culture nerdy guys won't mind, but smart guys who are successful with women will tend to go elsewhere if they can't 'get their oats', it's only natural

What are nerds in your opinion, if not smart successful people?

Nerds are people with poor social skills, poor hygiene, poor life skills that they have such limited life opportunities that they chose to retreat into an unhealthy fantasy world of comics and computer games.

Its sad really, someone needs to intervene in these people's lives and convince them they're throwing their lives away.

Nerds are the exact opposite of smart, successful people.

Not true. I'm no work of art but I'm reasonably attractive and was friendzoned left-right-and-centre as a schoolboy!

A nerd is someone who is abnormally into their particular disciplines/interests, and places an abnormally high degree of emphasis on related attainment. They tend to be a little slanted in terms of what gratifies them vs. the philistine who is slanted in the opposite direction

Yup. An older, more experienced guy will only tend to wait for a girl to put out if he sees it as a worthwhile 'long term investment'

Sure, who doesn’t?

Perhaps there’s a little of that thrown in too, for good measure, I can’t stand flattery but it costs nothing to acknowledge, and encourage others to reflect upon and explore themselves, their apparent positive qualities from time to time

Haha, you hard nosed diva you! I feel sure you will soften once you’re over here, even East Europeans have to soften sooner or later!

I blame you lot, for being so damn desirable, no wonder these guys get so ‘thirsty’!

You appear to have conflated nerd with geek,* I’m pretty sure the OP wouldn’t mix it with any geeks

Here as in TSR, or as in Romania?

As constant as Planck.

As regular as the vibrations of quartz.

As predictible as the pulsing of a Neutron star.

Mr Smurf is truly a phenomenon of physical science.

Not true. I'm no work of art but I'm reasonably attractive and was friendzoned left-right-and-centre as a schoolboy!

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Lol, loving the Physics.

I didn't suddenly transform into an Adonis, maturity/manliness are factors too (the evidence suggests this)

What do you think ?

Usually when you get friendzoned by a girl it means your not boyfriend material and generally she dosent see you as someone who she wants a relationship with.

However some people post online crap that says you can get out of the friendzone and possibly be in a relationship with her. Realistically if she doesnt like you, you are not going to be in a relationship with her are you ?

Myth or fact ?

Ah ok, well I'll have to take your word on that one! (yet to tour Eastern Europe)

Ah, so you're a bit of a nerd/geek yourself eh? Just as long as you're a cute geekette, it's all good

Guilty why?

To become a more rounded, personable, feminine, approachable, wonderful, individual?

I'm not sure I follow?

You hope.. wicked child! We should be pleased for them and wish them every happiness! (although I suppose one has to acknowledge the statistical probability..)

We've established that I can read people..

I didn't suddenly transform into an Adonis, maturity/manliness are factors too (the evidence suggests this)

For sure, 'cultured' attraction; however, (reasonably) objectively 'attractive' (e.g. aesthetics) guys do occasionally get friendzoned (contrary to what you seemed to be suggesting), for example because they have not cultivated themselves sufficiently in other areas or because they simply aren't a girl's 'type'

For sure, 'cultured' attraction; however, (reasonably) objectively 'attractive' (e.g. aesthetics) guys do occasionally get friendzoned (contrary to what you seemed to be suggesting), for example because they have not cultivated themselves sufficiently in other areas or because they simply aren't a girl's 'type'

I’m sure if we are honest we can agree that we established something of a demonstrated capacity

Can you give me any examples of this ‘extra curricular’ stuff that you should know – perhaps something has got lost in translation. In the UK this usually means interests outside of conventional academia, which are purely optional and no source of guilt (unless they are completely lacking, in which case I suppose one may feel guilty for being a little ‘one dimensional’?). Oh, another use of ‘extra curricular’ is a little naughty, btw

You take night classes?

Ah right, well, there are those who are of the belief that a little such guilt is good medicine! I’m not sure how I feel about the philosophy of education when it comes to that psychological component – I know some students benefit from such motivation but it seems rather negative to me, and can’t help e.g. with exam nerves etc


My behaviour changed, and my looks matured a little (I still look very young for my age, but at least I look like an adult now)

Aha, hence compsci!


That’s cool. I would just urge a little caution, too much sarcasm can totally kill a date – I remember one date with a girl who was sarcastic the whole night. It was funny at first, and we had many good laughs, but by the end of the date I didn’t have a clue whether she liked me or the whole date was just one big joke to her. When she asked me for a 2nd date I was rather confused, and agreed but never arranged it with her, unfortunately she kind of killed any chemistry with all that sarcastic banter

Yes

Yes


Seriously, if that works for you, and delivers a balanced, healthy, happy life, then you go for it

Usually when people talk about "attractive guys", they are referring to 'conventionally attractive' e.g. those broadly conceived of as aesthetically pleasing. If this was not your intention but you instead meant, for example, "guys who the girl in question finds attractive",* then this would seem a lot less controversial, if a little tautological; I would still protest, however, that girls can friendzone a guy they find attractive e.g. on the basis of (presumed) character defects/fundamental mismatch, although naturally I would concede that this is rarely absolute

Usually when people talk about "attractive guys", they are referring to 'conventionally attractive' e.g. those broadly conceived of as aesthetically pleasing. If this was not your intention but you instead meant, for example, "guys who the girl in question finds attractive",* then this would seem a lot less controversial, if a little tautological; I would still protest, however, that girls can friendzone a guy they find attractive e.g. on the basis of (presumed) character defects/fundamental mismatch, although naturally I would concede that this is rarely absolute

We are not friends


Jolly good, poor young lads can’t take too many japes, delicate egos ‘n’ all..

If only they knew?..

For sure, it takes two to tango, as we say

Ah right, yes, might be as well to add another string to your bow. They do keep insisting that they run Java on over 3 billion devices so, you know.. if you ever need to communicate with I dunno, a photocopier or something, I guess it might come in handy

Well thank goodness for that, tests at this time of night wouldn’t be much fun!- that said, I perform best at night, personally (that sounded more innocent in my head)

Bella?

How positively charming

Ah well, can’t all be perfect Would you friendzone a guy on the basis of his right-wing political beliefs? (he says, attempting to keep this on topic)

Hold up Just because you lefties like to 'move the goal posts' (and don’t know where they are half the time) does not mean you don’t have ‘fixed attitudes’!

Please, tell me more..

Hmm, I was with you regarding short-sighted* people, and I suppose I agree that a more sophisticated mind is rarely satisfied, but I believe that balance/cohesion and happiness are generally positive correlates