Feeling lonely and like something must be wrong with me

Don't think about it, of course. You're definitely not going to get far if your only aim of talking to guys is to be in a relationship with one of them. (It might actually make you worse off.) A lot of girls on here say they weren't thinking about having a relationship when suddenly, this guy comes along and makes them feel very
They were probably doing what they do best, what makes them feel happy, when they met their respective person(s) that became their boyfriends. So you should probably do the same

I think you need to start feeling good about yourself, regardless of who likes you or doesn't. I think everybody has a wonderful partner somewhere and we must be patient until we meet them. I too have never had a serious relationship.
My family and I moved to Africa late last year and I think I just met the most wonderful guy here.
Am glad I never got too desperate.
Love yourself first.

It's desperation, quite clearly. Anyone so worried about relationships inevitably gives off the anxious vibe that a potential relationship is a huge deal. People are ironically attracted to secure, independent others. I understand why you have had problems in this area, but they key is to work on yourself rather than expect a stranger to fill in your gaps.

This is going to sound like a whiney post, which I suppose it is in a way. But here goes anyway: due to serious health issues, I'm currently in my twenties and a fresher at university. Because I got seriously ill in my teens, I spent many years quite isolated. As a result, I've never had a boyfriend, never had sex, have never even been kissed.

I managed to make quite a lot of friends at uni already, but most of them are either girls or way younger than me. I joined a lot of clubs and societies, but whenever I talk to guys they seem completely, utterly uninterested. They're friendly, but never more than that. I don't go clubbing because I really dislike it, and am not interested in meeting someone for a one night stand. A while ago I actually went on a blind date with someone; we talked, we laughed, I thought it was all going well, but at the end of the night he left without asking my number, without asking to get in touch again, and without even properly saying goodbye. I contacted him afterwards to say I had a good time, thinking I was being paranoid - if I felt the date had gone well, then surely his strange parting was a coincidence? But he never even replied.

However arrogant it might sound, I don't get this. While I'm not very confident about my looks I know I'm not that bad looking either, and people often compliment me on how outgoing/social and nice I am. So what is it that I'm doing wrong?? Why do I give off this vibe that makes guys want to be friends with me at most? I'm at the point now where it's actually making me quite depressed; this has been happening to me for my entire life, and apart from making me feel very lonely it's messing with my confidence.


So tl;dr: I'm in my twenties and have never had a boyfriend/had sex/kissed a guy. I'm very good at making friends with girls and occasionally guys, but they never ever seem interested in more. How can I figure out what I'm doing wrong? How do people meet others in a romantic/relationship context? What would you do if you'd only ever met with disinterest?


Thanks for reading my sap story. Advice would be very much appreciated.