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Mental Health Support Society XVI

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Reply 780

Jean-Luc Picard

I am the lizard queen

Reply 781

bad_username

feeling kind of confused and wounded... :cry2:

Reply 782

Smash Bandicoot

2500 emails deleted, 250 more complicated ones left to deal with.

Reply 783

IDukem

Original post by bad_username

feeling kind of confused and wounded... :cry2:

What's up? :smile:

Reply 784

bad_username

Original post by IDukem

What's up? :smile:

I'm pan (i started that pan post if you've seen it) but my boyfriend doesn't know. and it's killing me that i'm lying to him. so i asked today what he though of gay people, and he said they're weird. weird. i just.. i feel i should tell him but i can't after today. everything is a mess :ashamed2:

Reply 785

IDukem

Original post by bad_username

Sorry I haven't seen it :redface:

Talking to him about sexuality might help him come to realise what he said is not true. Allow him to explain himself because he might have said the wrong word when he meant another...although the alternatives of said word doesn't seem bright.

Besides, if this guy truly thinks that homosexuality is weird and/or pan-sexuality etc. is too, does he really deserve to be in your life never-mind being your boyfriend?

The only thing that you could have done was possibly telling him to begin with prior to committing a relationship with him (excluding this hindsight thing), because if he reacted badly to it, you'd have dodged the biggest bullet. However, the stigma that is around us today in regards to sexuality and mental health makes me understand why you didn't :smile:

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Reply 786

bad_username

Original post by IDukem

Sorry I haven't seen it :redface:

Talking to him about sexuality might help him come to realise what he said is not true. Allow him to explain himself because he might have said the wrong word when he meant another...although the alternatives of said word doesn't seem bright.

Besides, if this guy truly thinks that homosexuality is weird and/or pan-sexuality etc. is too, does he really deserve to be in your life never-mind being your boyfriend?

The only thing that you could have done was possibly telling him to begin with prior to committing a relationship with him (excluding this hindsight thing), because if he reacted badly to it, you'd have dodged the biggest bullet. However, the stigma that is around us even now in regards to sexuality and mental health makes me udnerstand why you didn't :smile:

thank you for understanding :redface:

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Original post by bad_username

thank you for understanding :redface:

No worries! :h:

What do you feel you should do? :smile:

Reply 789

sherbet_lemons7

Original post by ScaryScience

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Reply 790

bad_username

Original post by IDukem

No worries! :h:

What do you feel you should do? :smile:

tell him, help him understand. i guess if he doesnt accept it he's not worth it.. but it would kill me to lose him

Reply 791

IDukem

Original post by bad_username

tell him, help him understand. i guess if he doesnt accept it he's not worth it.. but it would kill me to lose him

If he doesn't accept who you are, then of course the first part of the break-up will hurt, but you will find that you'll feel better in the long run :yep:

Reply 792

bad_username

Original post by IDukem

If he doesn't accept who you are, then of course the first part of the break-up will hurt, but you will find that you'll feel better in the long run :yep:

okay, i feel better about it now and you're right

Reply 793

Smash Bandicoot

All I need to become friends with her again is accept that it's not because I wasn't good enough that she left but because it was impossible to become long term due to our cultural differences. I've took a year reaching this point,