Mental Health Support Society XVI

Thanks You alright?


Thanks!

Thank you. How are you? I hope you're doing better, if you need/want to talk, I'm around.

Yeah, don't remember a huge amount of last night (or really anything ) but I'm ok- just seen your messages, thanks Are you ok?



I'm ok, better than I have been anyway. Thanks, same to you if you want me


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Took the the dog a walk without thinking bad stuff which is definitely an improvement! The farmer had left a mountain of horse poo in the middle of the path though and I think she must have eaten some cus she absolutely stinks Also got 'accused' of being a student by a crazy old woman telling me it wasn't safe to be out after dark (it's not dark) and that we always walk round in packs (there was just me and the dog). No idea what that was about...


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That's a very ambiguous sentence you've written there. Gotta love the English language!

Feel really bad.

Feel really bad.

Yeah, don't remember a huge amount of last night (or really anything ) but I'm ok- just seen your messages, thanks Are you ok?

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Took the the dog a walk without thinking bad stuff which is definitely an improvement! The farmer had left a mountain of horse poo in the middle of the path though and I think she must have eaten some cus she absolutely stinks Also got 'accused' of being a student by a crazy old woman telling me it wasn't safe to be out after dark (it's not dark) and that we always walk round in packs (there was just me and the dog). No idea what that was about...

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Congratulations

Well done both!

Have had a thoroughly unproductive day thanks to the lovely combination of just feeling a bit meh moodwise and cramps *pauses to curse gp who changed pill*. Going to get up in a few minutes and go buy snacks because I have two essays to write tonight.
Was speaking to a guy on my course yesterday and mentioned that I don't really go out to clubs because I don't know many people. His brilliant advice was to make some friends which I laughed off but this is somebody who knows I have anxiety and I'm baffled that he can't connect the two.
Also keep thinking I'm going to fail the year because I can't motivate myself to work. I have no idea what I would do with myself if that happened :/
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Don't worry about it, it's what I'm here for I think you need to stop terrorising old ladies

I'm okish thanks, food isn't good but



Thanks

Sounds like he just wasn't thinking that way, I don't think he'd do it to intentionally upset you. People without anxiety don't always think in terms of how we would react to conversation.

I don't know if you find this but when you feel like you're going to fail the year does it hinder your motivation? It does to me, then that makes me even more worried ill fail the year in a vicious cycle.

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I still keep having hangups about getting a rubbish job when I graduate, I'm compelled to compare myself to others and I know I'm doing it but I can't stop.

Is it okay to not get an amazing job straight out of uni? For some reason I convince myself that my life will be awful unless I get a high paying job in a top firm.

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Yeah I think he was probably just not thinking but it just feels like reaching out to that group of people to socialise with isn't going to happen. Most of them are lovely, they just say things like that some times and it makes it hard to not be on edge around them.

Honestly my motivation has been in the toilet for the past two years. I'll probably get myself to do some work in a few weeks but it just worries me that tomorrow we have a party since we're half way through the year and that means exams in three months (the one in 4 weeks I'm assuming will be okay and i can cram for it the week before). I don't really get worried about the exams, I live in a nice state of denial that despite doing nowhere near enough work and wanting to hide in bed it will all work out somehow. Which is why I now have to write two essays tonight because I couldn't make myself do it yesterday. But first I need to eat and watch some tv to wake up a bit.

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It's totally okay. My friend graduated last year from a really good university with a good degree and she's working part time in something she doesn't really want to do for very long while living at home.

I still keep having hangups about getting a rubbish job when I graduate, I'm compelled to compare myself to others and I know I'm doing it but I can't stop.

Is it okay to not get an amazing job straight out of uni? For some reason I convince myself that my life will be awful unless I get a high paying job in a top firm.

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Most people not only don't go straight into high paying work after uni but they don't even go into positions you would think would lead into higher paying things. Sure, the relative few get onto grad schemes for big blue chips but most take any old job, get a bit of experience and move around companies and industries for a few years before settling into something.

Recently, when I was job hunting, I looked on linkedin (you don't have to join up to browse) and a lot of people have the best part of their cvs on there so you can see their routes into various jobs. I started looking at people from my year at school (so all 30 year olds) and there were a few with fairly high up or interesting jobs now who had gone to uni but then spent a few years in retail, call centres amd other min wage jobs before moving up the chain and into higher paying stuff.