Original post by AnonymousDid you not see I quoted someone having a go at "sluts" there? Of course Christians often judge people who have sex, I'm not saying all Christians do, but many do. I do those things too, but lets face it, if you can equate the fun of a board game to the fun of your sex life, you've got a pretty bad sex life. Or one hell of a board game, perhaps. All relationships are different, but many people would feel very frustrated and unloved if their long term partner refused to have sex with them.
Yes they do, frequently.
Not really, I still have Christian family and I don't resent them at all, my personal experience of religion isn't that negative at all. My dislike of religion more comes from scientific rationalism and my studies into history and politics, which have led me to conclude organised religion is generally a negative force in the world, promoting hatred, division, exploitation and ignorance.
I'm 23, I'd say that is the case for most relationships. You realise people have more sex as they get out their teens, not less, right?
No it doesn't. I'd consider ending a relationship if a girl said that. Not because that's all I want, but because if she says that she either-
- Isn't sexually attracted to me, so the relationship doesn't really have a future.
- Is playing silly games, in which case she's probably a bit immature for me.
- Doesn't believe in sex before marriage, in which case she probably has incompatable beliefs with me.
Like I say, things are more nuanced, there's more than one reason a guy might do that. If you sat down and explained that you need to feel loved and safe before we had sex, and that might take some time, that would be one thing. I'd totally understand, and go with it if I liked you enough, but just to dictate to me "sex is off the table"? Nope.
You can never be certain of how things will end up. It doesn't mean the relationship wasn't worthwhile, or that you were just doing it to "pass the time". Again, this is dichotomous thinking, the idea that just because the relationship didn't work out, he never had any feelings for you.