Mental Health Support Society XVI

Sending all the good vibes!

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TLG Update: This is very minor compared to what's happening with other people in the thread atm But here goes...

Am going to Oxford tomorrow and basically need people to send good vibes so that E doesn't appear anywhere where I am planning to be. It shouldn't happen but the voices are trying to convince me that it will and I'm scared







Yeah, they're not really like most other South Asian arranged marriages. Basically the parents of the prospective partners facilitate some kinda introduction and then if the two young people like each other, they meet again, then again, keep meeting for a while, then get engaged, then get married after a year or two. It's quite civilised - basically like your friends setting you up on a blind date, but your parents doing it instead! There are pros and cons to it, as one might imagine...



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TLG Update: This is very minor compared to what's happening with other people in the thread atm But here goes...

Am going to Oxford tomorrow and basically need people to send good vibes so that E doesn't appear anywhere where I am planning to be. It shouldn't happen but the voices are trying to convince me that it will and I'm scared







Yeah, they're not really like most other South Asian arranged marriages. Basically the parents of the prospective partners facilitate some kinda introduction and then if the two young people like each other, they meet again, then again, keep meeting for a while, then get engaged, then get married after a year or two. It's quite civilised - basically like your friends setting you up on a blind date, but your parents doing it instead! There are pros and cons to it, as one might imagine...



Hugs for you too

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Good luck tomorrow hun! You gonna be with friends to be kept safe?

Also you dont have to answer, or can answer privately. You know you said your MH illness could ruin your sisters future/marriage prospects? How do they feel about it? Just curious


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TLG Update: This is very minor compared to what's happening with other people in the thread atm But here goes...

Am going to Oxford tomorrow and basically need people to send good vibes so that E doesn't appear anywhere where I am planning to be. It shouldn't happen but the voices are trying to convince me that it will and I'm scared







Yeah, they're not really like most other South Asian arranged marriages. Basically the parents of the prospective partners facilitate some kinda introduction and then if the two young people like each other, they meet again, then again, keep meeting for a while, then get engaged, then get married after a year or two. It's quite civilised - basically like your friends setting you up on a blind date, but your parents doing it instead! There are pros and cons to it, as one might imagine...

Thanks lovely. I'm so sorry you are in so much pain Obviously won't be at laptop tomorrow but hope to support you a bit more from Thursday onwards, if there's any way in which I can help



Thanks. Yeah, I'll rarely be alone, dw

I don't think my sisters have even given it proper thought tbh. I think, being an overthinker, it's something I'm acutely aware of and worry about a lot, but I don't think they've thought about it or if they have, it doesn't bother them, coz we're a tight trio and sisters always come first

Oh that's interesting, thanks for the explanation I've only met Tamils in the past and all have been very liberal about dating. Good luck in Oxford I hope it goes well for you. Don't let those voices win.

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Gooood! Im sure things will be fine

You seem really tight and thats really good its good that they dont seem to have an issue with it. I dont think i could cope with any arranged marriage situation if im honest!


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Thanks lovely. I'm so sorry you are in so much pain Obviously won't be at laptop tomorrow but hope to support you a bit more from Thursday onwards, if there's any way in which I can help



Thanks. Yeah, I'll rarely be alone, dw

I don't think my sisters have even given it proper thought tbh. I think, being an overthinker, it's something I'm acutely aware of and worry about a lot, but I don't think they've thought about it or if they have, it doesn't bother them, coz we're a tight trio and sisters always come first

Good luck tomorrow!


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Good luck tomorrow!

Thanks lovely. It's alright, dw about me. Hope tomorrow goes well, will be thinking of you.

TLG Update: This is very minor compared to what's happening with other people in the thread atm But here goes...

Am going to Oxford tomorrow and basically need people to send good vibes so that E doesn't appear anywhere where I am planning to be. It shouldn't happen but the voices are trying to convince me that it will and I'm scared

Thanks very much. I'm Sinhalese so it's probably a bit different. Though my understanding had been that Tamils are even stricter than the Sinhalese You must have met some Tamils with uber-cool parents



Arranged marriages aren't ideal in some ways, but they equally aren't all automatically as bad as people tend to imagine I do see why loads of people aren't in favour of them but if I were straight and a bit less shy, I'd be in total favour of having one myself