Should I lose my virginity before meeting him?

If you have problems, eg pain, with your first time, you will still have those problems with your second, and third, and many other times.

Unless you're planning on sleeping with 100 guys in the next month I doubt it'd be any different.

If anything, he might've a virgin fetish.

Argh, he doesn't! He said it was really awkward, overrated, and smelled like coins. He hated it. Of course he wouldn't really care, but it would mean having him basically teach me, instead of us enjoying each other. he's very manly, he sees sex as very primal and elemental, he seems to be very good at it and I just don't want to start off this way.

Are you serious? That long?

Can't be sure.

Depends on who you're with and how's your body like.

I think it'd be good with him, because I wanted him very much when I met him...but on the other hand, he's into light choking and hair pulling and I think...his pace would be hard and fast. Which is probably great if you're 30 with two divorces and five affairs, but maybe i'll need it to be gentle for ages. Which sucks because that's not what I want.

If you want to get used to choking and hair pulling I don't think losing your virginity to anyone random would be of much help. They might be quite vanilla. I've had 200+ people and I still don't like choking or hair pulling.

As for the hard and fast part, it's very difficult to tell as I've said. Some people are naturally loose, some people are naturally tight.

People, so men and women?

You need to go have a bath in holy water and make sure you clean your penis thoroughly.
In all seriousness there is no need to sleep with over 200 its ridiculous and makes me wonder if people like this have issues

If you want to get used to choking and hair pulling I don't think losing your virginity to anyone random would be of much help. They might be quite vanilla. I've had 200+ people and I still don't like choking or hair pulling.

As for the hard and fast part, it's very difficult to tell as I've said. Some people are naturally loose, some people are naturally tight.

Men.

I listen to Queen of Pop MADONNA's track 'Holy Water' off her No 1 album Rebel Heart​ always.

No

If he geniunely cares about you, it won't matter, he's had the patience to wait until you're ready, why wouldn't he have the patience to wait for you to get used to things with him.

I'm going to tell you something I've found out that most people don't talk about.

Losing your virginity to another person won't work, because your first time with someone new, is still like your first first time in many ways. Everyones body is different. All men don't like the same things, all women don't like the same things. Being with someone new, virgin or not, is a whole new learning experience. The first few times with a new person is always a bit awkward, its never perfect, and it always takes a bit of time to get used to it, because with any new person, you're teaching each other how to do it, you're learning about each others bodies and about your own body. So don't worry about him having to teach you how to have sex, because thats how it always works. And even if you've been with someone for years and years.... sex can still sometimes be a bit meh... purely because we're human and our bodies don't always do what we want them to!

If you're in a relationship with him, losing your virginity to someone else is cheating, it doesn't matter whether you think you're doing it for his benefit or not, you're probably not, you'd be doing it for the benefit of your own insecurities, not for him. If you really think that doing this would benefit him, go ahead and talk to him about it. Ask him if he'd be happy with you doing it. I bet his answer is no, and I bet you know that..

If you love him, if he loves you and you want to have a long term relationship with him, you have GOT to learn to communicate with him. So talk to him about your worries about having sex... if you can't talk to him about it... then maybe you should ask yourself whether you're really ready to be having sex or even a relationship with him or anybody...

If you're worried about pain or tightness... there are things you can do by yourself to gently stretch your hymen and get yourself used to handling penetration a while before you jump into having sex with him.