Equal rights implies equal responsibility and accountability.
Leadership is a position of power.
Exercise of power necessarily attracts criticism.
A good leader must be able to take criticism well without becoming defensive or insecure.
Therefore, a good female leader must be able to take criticism well, without becoming defensive or insecure, just as well as a male leader, if she is to be equally qualified as a good leader.
Is this a feminist or an anti-feminist stance?
Anyway, here is my beef with a lot of modern feminism. How I see feminism used today is a "bitch insurrection". You get insecure, catty, game-playing, aggressive, manipulative women who feel entitled to power over others, despite their inability to take criticism, despite their penchant for playing games and being dishonest.
"Dammit! I'm equal! I DESERVE as much power over others as a man!"
No, my little histrionic shrew, you do not. You have to EARN the right on merit.
If you are insecure and cannot take criticism, if you cannot deal directly, if you play games - you are not qualified for leadership. Period. You are not entitled to have a pass on such crappy behaviour because vagina, and then get handed a position of leadership anyway.
The kind of person who deflects legitimate criticism of female game-playing behaviour by accusing the critic of misogyny, whether directly or via innuendo, is one of the least qualified for leadership. And I would place many self-identified feminist women I have encountered on the Internet in that category.
Leadership must be meritocratic. It doesn't matter what you have between the legs if you have the merit. If you lack the merit, it doesn't matter what you have between the legs, you do not deserve a leadership position. Period. Power must be earned on merit. Respect is earned.
Histrionic women are some of the least qualified for power over others, in my assessment. And in my consistent experience, it is precisely this type who tends to latch onto feminism and develop a full blown sense of entitlement to power over others. Playing the victim (as they victimise others with their game-playing, manipulative treachery), crying "sexism" (while being sexist against men), whining about "male privilege" (while being wilfully blind to their own privilege as a woman), whining about an oppressive "patriarchy" (while they'd prefer an oppressive matriarchy).
Blind to the fact that it's their behaviour, not their gender, which leads others to look down upon them. Angry at the world, they just want power, which they'd be happy to abuse to punish anyone who gives them legitimate criticism due to their desperate insecurity. ("It's because you hate women, isn't it?")
If this is feminism, then count me out. Sure, some women make excellent leaders. But the majority of self-identified feminist women I've seen? No. A fully developed sense of entitlement coupled with a victim mentality are not the traits of a good leader.
If this is you, then take comfort. I don't see you as disqualified for leadership positions because you have a vagina. I see you as disqualified for leadership positions because you are disqualified for leadership positions. Please try to understand the difference, thanks. Some people who are for gender equality can see through hypocrisy.