What do you do when a casual sex partner is bad at sex?

Arguably criticizing them in a respectful manner isn't as important as with a serious partner, but I think even if you'renot in a relationship with someone you should treat them well.

The guy I have sex with isn't very experienced and I think porn has shaped his expectations about sex more than my other partner (I'm not very experienced either, lol). He seems to think that being good at sex = drilling my pussy for as long as possible. I still enjoy sex with him a lot but I want to make it known to him that other stuff (e.g rubbing my clit) is more important (this seems obvious to me so idk if he just doesn't care). I don't wanna ruin the mood during sex but I'm also not sure how to bring this up in general conversation lol. Help please. :frown:

Tell him

Find another guy

I'm sure he'll learn, you just gotta go with the flow I guess :smile:

If you tell him he's bad, it would make things between you and him super awkward

Reply 4

RainbowKiwi

16

Have a talk about how you can make the experience better for the both of you. Say it casually so it seems like you want to make things better for him instead of hinting about you.

Reply 5

FroKane

6

Original post by Anonymous

Arguably criticizing them in a respectful manner isn't as important as with a serious partner, but I think even if you'renot in a relationship with someone you should treat them well.

The guy I have sex with isn't very experienced and I think porn has shaped his expectations about sex more than my other partner (I'm not very experienced either, lol). He seems to think that being good at sex = drilling my pussy for as long as possible. I still enjoy sex with him a lot but I want to make it known to him that other stuff (e.g rubbing my clit) is more important (this seems obvious to me so idk if he just doesn't care). I don't wanna ruin the mood during sex but I'm also not sure how to bring this up in general conversation lol. Help please. :frown:

have sex with someone else, I'm sure there are no shortage of guys who want to sleep with you.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by FroKane

have sex with someone else, I'm sure there are no shortage of guys who want to sleep with you.

I like him tho :frown:

It's not just the sex

Reply 7

Jonesy57

Original post by Anonymous

I like him tho :frown:

It's not just the sex

Ive been in this situation before, maybe you just arent sexually compatible? its harrd to accept sometimess but maybe its better to just be BFFs :frown:

Reply 8

Mark8346

10

Communication is the solution to almost every relationship issue.

Reply 9

Maid Marian

20

Tell him and teach him how to be better! :smile:

Show him what you want him to do, even guide his hand etc. :dontknow:

Probably end it

Original post by Anonymous

Arguably criticizing them in a respectful manner isn't as important as with a serious partner, but I think even if you'renot in a relationship with someone you should treat them well.

The guy I have sex with isn't very experienced and I think porn has shaped his expectations about sex more than my other partner (I'm not very experienced either, lol). He seems to think that being good at sex = drilling my pussy for as long as possible. I still enjoy sex with him a lot but I want to make it known to him that other stuff (e.g rubbing my clit) is more important (this seems obvious to me so idk if he just doesn't care). I don't wanna ruin the mood during sex but I'm also not sure how to bring this up in general conversation lol. Help please. :frown:

tell him what to do lol.

Or rub your own clit.

Do you just lay there silently on the bed like a dead fish and expect him to know exactly what to do? haha

Reply 12

Maid Marian

20

Original post by keromedic

Probably end it

And that will surely make him feel fantastic about himself :/

Reply 13

Kvothe the Arcane

20

Original post by Maid Marian

And that will surely make him feel fantastic about himself :/

How would he know?

Reply 14

JSPalmer

4

You've got fingers, why can't you stimulate your own clit during sex? :s-smilie:

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

Original post by JSPalmer

You've got fingers, why can't you stimulate your own clit during sex? :s-smilie:

It's nicer having someone else do it, if I wanted to masturbate I wouldn't bother getting in bed with someone

Reply 16

Rovey

9

You sound a bit like a pussy (no pun intended)

if you want something done you articulate your feelings

Reply 17

-Venus

5

Original post by Maid Marian

Tell him and teach him how to be better! :smile:

Show him what you want him to do, even guide his hand etc. :dontknow:

Aren't you a virgin? This is probably the best response to this thread! Go you haha!

But yeah OP you should talk to him about it, he's never going to get better if nobody tells him. He won't think it's selfish if you tell him things you'd like him to do to you, guys love it when they know they're pleasing the girl :tongue:

Reply 18

Black Cat

20

You ditch them obviously as they could be easily replaced.

Reply 19

Maid Marian

20

Original post by -Venus

Aren't you a virgin? This is probably the best response to this thread! Go you haha!

But yeah OP you should talk to him about it, he's never going to get better if nobody tells him. He won't think it's selfish if you tell him things you'd like him to do to you, guys love it when they know they're pleasing the girl :tongue:

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