Why don't people try to understand asexuality?

Suffering from a lack of sexual desire is a well-known symptom of depression. Have you spoken to a medical health professional about it?

As an asexual:
I rarely tell people that I am asexual because it isn't a huge deal for me. I'm not very romantic either. I feel bad that I turn down really nice people sometimes though. Once, someone asked me out and completely stopped talking to me when I said no. Why would you do that?

Funnily enough, that is also the exact definition of Loss of libido (sex drive), a common medical problem that can affect approximately one in five men, and even more women, at some point in their life.Its almost as if they're exactly the same thing

I think this person clearly isn't understanding or choosing to accept that libido is different from sexual attraction.

Can you not conceive of a person being directionlessly horny?

Lacking the desire to engage in sexual activities is not the same thing as lacking sexual desire (sex drive).

No, I'm a heteroromantic asexual male with a high libido, basically. It's funny, no-one actually asked what my libido is like but instead preferred to come here with beliefs founded on nothing rather than ask, But it's fun watching you try to be a smart-ass rather than trying to actual learn from the discussion going on here.

In regards to the question of this thread you're doing a good job proving my point.

Jeez Coleslaw, chill out.

So they are basically people who mentally don't want to have sex. Like me because I am a High Church Anglican?

Jeez Coleslaw, chill out.

Yes it is.

"Sexual desire is a motivational state and an interest in “sexual objects or activities, or as a wish, need, or drive to seek out sexual objects or to engage in sexual activities”.^[1] Synonyms for sexual desire are libido, sexual attraction, and lust."

Yes. But that means you're sexually attracted to everyone, not no-one

In the context of what I have writen, ''Lacking the desire to engage in sexual activities'' refers to what I want to do, specifically with regards to engaging with other people, while ''Sexual desire'' refers to what I am capable of feeling.


I'm not particularly sure how this is in great conflict with what you have said. The definition you have given is pretty broad, so the two may be the same thing in some circumstances but might not be in others. It depends which activites you're talking about and the extent to which you are interested in them, hence the example I had given.

Asexuality is a spectrum like any other and there are various ways in which disinterest in sexual activity can manifest. To quote Wikipedia,

''Some asexual people engage in sexual activity despite lacking a desire for sex or sexual attraction, due to a variety of reasons, such as a desire to pleasure themselves or romantic partners, or a desire to have children.''

It seems that the problem you have is that you dislike the word itself?

No it doesn't, it means one has an anticipation of sexual activity, which equally needn't require the presence or involvement of another person.
Have you never been horny while alone?

What a bizarre question. If you're horny but can't find anyone you want to do it with, you're not asexual, you're just picky.

I don't dislike anything in particular, other than people talking *******s.

Asexual is just another word for "low libido".

The difference is, people who recognise that they have low libidos often do something about it and improve their lives. People who class themselves as asexuals don't for some stupid reason. Whatever way you look at it, that's a terrible shame. In that it produces an unhealthy attitude, the word should be discontinued.

By "alone" I mean necessarily that no one else is present as an object of sexual attention. One can stimulate their libido merely in anticipation of some form of sexual activity, here masturbation, without the requirement of attraction to another person.