Please be honest: would you date a girl who has had one night stands?

As long as she has changed her ways and is not a feminist then I would for a serious relationship.

Why did you think you were not worthy for a long term relationship?

Hahhahaah this made my day

She'll be more mature and less likely to be tempted to try something 'new'.

I don't mind other people having casual sex. And I wouldn't have a problem with a guy who had in the past so long as he remained loyal to me. What I am trying to say is that I personally have been very negatively affected by it for the reason that only had casual sex because I felt bad about myself rather than wanting to having fun, pleasure etc. I now know the only space I can personally explore my sexuality is within a monogamous relationship where we both love and care for each other. This does not mean I want to police what others do in the bedroom. The reason I ask this question is because the reality is that women more so than men are looked down upon for sleeping around. I also recently started to date a guy who is a virgin. It's early days of course but should this continue I will find myself telling him this same story and I won't lie I am nervous about this.

In some cases yes. For me I've only had those 5 encounters, only one was actually penetrative so I have no clue about sex really despite my high number. Someone who has been with one person for a longer time would probably know more about sex and experiment more than me.

Thank you so much my low self esteem is definitely holding me back probably more so than the men I slept with. My self esteem has come on leaps and bounds over the past few years but I've still got quite a journey to go

I suppose I need to forgive myself rather than call myself worthless etc. I have learnt from the past and need to put it behind me. I like your analogy of the box with the bow I might just visualise that in doing so

So what is your view?

I've had 5 to be precise over the course of 5 years, although my last was over 2 years ago (I'm 26 now). Two were with strangers and three with guys that I knew and I only had 'full' intercourse with one. I was single during all of them and no longer speak with the guys that I knew. Also for the record I am disease free.

If I'm honest I had these because I had low self esteem and wanted to feel close to someone and didn't feel worthy of anyone long term. My way of thinking was I'm not good enough for a relationship only to be used... That someone could only feel sexual desire for me but never anything meaningful so I thought I should take what I can get. I deeply regret it all and hate my past self for it so much. I've learnt from the experience and I take responsibility for what happened to me. I have been abstinent since I feel sick when I think about the things I did. I'm in therapy for general anxiety and we sometimes work through this too.

I just feel like a used up wh**e. Please don't talk about how casual sex can be fun etc. because I can't speak for anyone else but for me it was very unhealthy to let people into my body who didn't give a damn about me.

So guys what do you think? Would you run a mile? Or would you consider dating a girl like this? Give me you thoughts and don't hold back!

Women are more judged than men for sleeping around, but do you really want a sexist guy who subscribes to that? There's plenty of guys now who think women should be judged the same as men.

I don't care if you've had occasional casual sex. Nothing to worry about. If it's a different bloke every week, i have no reason to think you'll be loyal to me. But if you change then you change. Not gonna begrudge you your fun years if your behavioral patterns change.

When most people give their number, they're talking about penetration. It doesn't matter, but say you've shagged one guy and feel better about yourself.

Any guy who cares you should not care about. And apart from them, everybody else does not care. Don't be restricted to people's outdated views of what a woman should/shouldn't do. Do whatever you want!

I've had 5 to be precise over the course of 5 years, although my last was over 2 years ago (I'm 26 now). Two were with strangers and three with guys that I knew and I only had 'full' intercourse with one. I was single during all of them and no longer speak with the guys that I knew. Also for the record I am disease free.

If I'm honest I had these because I had low self esteem and wanted to feel close to someone and didn't feel worthy of anyone long term. My way of thinking was I'm not good enough for a relationship only to be used... That someone could only feel sexual desire for me but never anything meaningful so I thought I should take what I can get. I deeply regret it all and hate my past self for it so much. I've learnt from the experience and I take responsibility for what happened to me. I have been abstinent since I feel sick when I think about the things I did. I'm in therapy for general anxiety and we sometimes work through this too.

I just feel like a used up wh**e. Please don't talk about how casual sex can be fun etc. because I can't speak for anyone else but for me it was very unhealthy to let people into my body who didn't give a damn about me.

So guys what do you think? Would you run a mile? Or would you consider dating a girl like this? Give me you thoughts and don't hold back!

Thank you it's not that ONSs are bad in themselves but they affected me in bad way possibly because of the way I was raised where sexuality (outside of unprotected missionary in the bounds of marriage) was disgusting and demonized so 2 years ago I chose to keep my sexuality within a committed relationship as I feel this will be healthiest for me. For me it's not even that I had them it was the place I was coming from meaning I was doing it because I felt worthless rather than doing it for enjoyment or pleasure if that makes sense. I don't think that guy is isolated in his views but as you say there will surely be quite a few guys who will accept me as I will likewise accept the skeletons in their closet!

You know you don't have to tell people about your one night stands right? They don't show up on your credit history either so there's a good chance you can still get a mortgage

Would you ever know, unless the men concerned or her friends were indiscreet?