Finding Males Attractive

Cultural and evolutionary, too detailed for me to go into, that's why the approaching is usually seen as the guy's doing. But girls can approach too, I just think most of us often get the impression that guys are not expecting it so we don't do it. I have heard some guys also say they find it unattractive because they want to be the one do the approaching. Everyone is different. I'm only going to feel uncomfortable being approached if it is by a complete stranger, someone I don't like or someone I've already rejected or don't want to be with. Otherwise it's flattering.

I don't know what you mean, of course girls find guys attractive, ones with some kind of preference for men anyway, straight, bi etc.

What kind of things are attractive about them?

I think it's similar to what you look for in a friend. Someone who holds your attention, is interesting, shares your sense of humour and makes you feel like a better or improved person. So it's going to change dramatically for each person.

Also, the obvious - appearance and general mannerisms, hygiene, hobbies etc. And obviously how they treat you personally, whether they flirt, compliment you or show a genuine interest in your well-being.

So how come it has to be a male rather than a female?

What has to be a male rather than a female?

A partner or potential partner

For me it doesn't I'm pansexual.

That's cool

I just feel like as a guy were not liked

I don't know how you can say that! Women often date men for the same reasons men date women, they want a companion and that person fits the bill. What makes you say guys aren't liked? So many women wouldn't go out of their way to please guys with their appearance, sexual skills etc. if they didn't like men.

We also wouldn't have so many people in the world if women didn't have a reason to like men

I have heard some guys also say they find it unattractive because they want to be the one do the approaching.

wtf doing the approaching yerself is more effort what is wrong with them

Idk I just presumed it was because guys obviously like girls and through being confident and forward, girls oblige or are flattered by the attention

I don't really want to be with someone who wouldn't want to be with me I guess

Plus this more relationship anxiety based due to my own experiences

Cultural and evolutionary, too detailed for me to go into, that's why the approaching is usually seen as the guy's doing. But girls can approach too, I just think most of us often get the impression that guys are not expecting it so we don't do it. I have heard some guys also say they find it unattractive because they want to be the one do the approaching. Everyone is different. I'm only going to feel uncomfortable being approached if it is by a complete stranger, someone I don't like or someone I've already rejected or don't want to be with. Otherwise it's flattering.

I don't know what you mean, of course girls find guys attractive, ones with some kind of preference for men anyway, straight, bi etc.

The people I'm talking about said they found it emasculating which is absurd to me, but I guess I'm not in their shoes. They were in favour of the way it generally is, they wanted to be the chaser not the chased which is weird. Wouldn't everyone be flattered by the chase? :/