Girls seem to ignore me?

Hello

I am posting this because I am extremely sad and frustrated at the fact that girls I have contacted have totally ignored me, despite me being friendly and caring.

This is especially so on Facebook, where I have messaged girls, asking how they are, trying to initiate a meaningful conversation and soforth; with them simply ignoring me completely.

In addition to this, I have recently joined online dating sites like Match UK and PoF, as I thought that this would boost my chances of getting to know a girl and having a relationship with someone. However, despite contacting some girls on these sites, the site tells me that they have visited my profile, but they don't even take notice of my well-worded messages and it's extremely rude and disconcerting. This was unexpected as dating sites are made for people trying to develop a bond with someone.

I'd like to add that I haven't mistreated anyone before, especially ladies. I also don't judge people on their appearance, and I make it clear to people that personality is far more important. Not that this matters, because I have been ignored time and time again.

It seems extremely strange that girls have ignored me, and it's getting upsetting and degrading for my morale and relationship chances. I am starting to think that I am completely undateable.

Thank you.

Chin up Rob.

Aw I'm a girl and I'm not ignoring you although I understand your frustration, maybe speak to girls that aren't online?

I wouldn't take the Facebook thing to heart. Most girls get a lot of messages from guys they don't really talk to - if you aren't already talking in real life then your chances of a reply are slim.

With online dating, many people will be quite superficial as you're mostly judging off a picture, with only a bit of information about yourself. People aren't likely to bother reading paragraphs either. I've never personally used a dating site, but I'd imagine that people go through a lot of profiles before finding one they like, so I wouldn't worry so much about the number of views on your profile. Online dating can give the freedom for people to be quite picky - you're literally picking from a catalogue of people.

Your best bet is going out and meeting people in person. From your post it sounds like most of your pursuits are done from a computer. If you want people to like you for your personality then being friends first should help a lot

The only other thing I'd say to change is the way you're approaching this mentally. You seem to have the mindset that you're entitled to these girls, as though they owe you a relationship because you've been "friendly and caring", or because you've never mistreated a woman. Also, how you think that it's rude that women on dating sites aren't interested. I really don't mean to sound rude here as I know you mean well and you sound like a nice person, I just think you might want to watch out for this as it can be a turnoff

Good luck!!

It's the modern world hombre, you're not the only one who has recognised it. Modern women have been brought up with the mentality as a given of how much they are entitled to and how much better than guys they are. They don't 'need' to be polite as they see it. Just don't spend you're life trying to appeal to them, 'specially people you don't have anything in common with-I've been told I'm attractive but I don't get hardly any women-it's just about who you connect with.

Is it not 'entitled' to think every message deserves a response?

When I was online dating, I tried to respond to my messages, even if there was 'no spark', just to 'be polite' and that soon gets tedious. After weeks of wading through unsolicited dick pics., thinly veiled sexual come-ons and downright stupidity, it gets bothersome to 'be polite' to everyone who says: 'hi, wuu2?'

No, I get what you mean, don't take me too literally. I was really talking about another more specific phenomenon.

When I was online dating, I tried to respond to my messages, even if there was 'no spark', just to 'be polite' and that soon gets tedious. After weeks of wading through unsolicited dick pics., thinly veiled sexual come-ons and downright stupidity, it gets bothersome to 'be polite' to everyone who says: 'hi, wuu2?'

Don't just message girls and ask how they are. I haven't seen your messages so don't know how they come across, but I and every other girl active on Facebook have had messages like this, and it always comes across as creepy because it's straight away obvious what the guy wants. I used to just ignore them, and I think most women do. Now, I tell them to **** off and/or explain why I don't enjoy it (depending on which mood I'm in), and it's an insta-block if it's someone I don't know well IRL.

Don't just message girls and ask how they are. I haven't seen your messages so don't know how they come across, but I and every other girl active on Facebook have had messages like this, and it always comes across as creepy because it's straight away obvious what the guy wants. I used to just ignore them, and I think most women do. Now, I tell them to **** off and/or explain why I don't enjoy it (depending on which mood I'm in), and it's an insta-block if it's someone I don't know well IRL.