Why isn't porn seen as cheating?

How can you be in relationship and watch a naked girl on the screen and that is seen as okay, but internet dating, etc is seen as cheating?

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Do you consider masturbating over other women while in a relationship with your girlfriend?

Reply 21

chester.

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Yes, but they shouldn't.
A lot of the things my boyfriend does piss me off, but I'm a rational person and realise that I shouldn't be trying to control him.
That includes porn watching habits, masturbation habits etc...

If you have a problem with porn, fine- don't watch it or partake in it. But don't try to influence other people's porn habits.

Reply 22

Implication

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Original post by chester.

I disagree. It's not my place to get pissy if my other half wants to watch porn in his own time.

What if he masturbates over pictures of your best friend? What if he just visualises him/her?

I don't watch porn because I know my fiancée doesn't like it, it's quite straightforward really!

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Reply 23

DiddyDec01

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Original post by Implication

What if he masturbates over pictures of your best friend? What if he just visualises him/her?

Thought police?

Reply 24

Implication

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Original post by chester.

Yes, but they shouldn't.
A lot of the things my boyfriend does piss me off, but I'm a rational person and realise that I shouldn't be trying to control him.
That includes porn watching habits, masturbation habits etc...

If you have a problem with porn, fine- don't watch it or partake in it. But don't try to influence other people's porn habits.

I don't think it's really our place to be telling anyone what they shouldn't care about :holmes:

Obviously porn isn't cheating, but there are parallels and in many relationships a discussions is worth having. I don't think just waving our hands and dismissing others' concerns is very often an appropriate response!

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Reply 25

keturah

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It's not cheating but I'd prefer they didn't watch porn.

Reply 26

chester.

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Original post by Implication

What if he masturbates over pictures of your best friend? What if he just visualises him/her?

I don't watch porn because I know my fiancée doesn't like it, it's quite straightforward really!

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If my best friend had done porn, then I guess that's his prerogative. But we both know that's not what you're talking about, so it's a silly thing to bring up. :wink:

Similarly, visualising is entirely different.

For me it boils down to...
If porn is an issue for someone in a relationship then they ought to give themselves a shake- it's just porn. :biggrin:

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 27

It's****ingWOODY

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Alright, no need to get touchy... which coincidentally is what he probably does with himself when you're asleep :biggrin:

Reply 28

It's****ingWOODY

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I see. How often? Just out of interest :biggrin:

Not in a pervy way. For a change.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 29

Cherie Amour

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Original post by Hydeman

Because you're not having sex with the naked lady on the screen?

Original post by EllainKahlo

Because you're not engaged in a relationship with the pornstar(s) you're watching, you're just watching them have sex or masturbate. With internet dating etc. you are.

What if you are cybering with the webcam star? :tongue:

Original post by WoodyMKC

Sure he does :wink:

XD No man unless he's Mormon (and even still probably not...maybe then Amish) in the 21st century doesn't watch porn.

TMI.

Original post by Cherie Amour

What if you are cybering with the webcam star? :tongue:

Then I'd say it counts as phone sex, which could potentially be cheating. :tongue:

But to say just watching people have sex amounts to cheating is a bit far, I think.

Reply 32

It's****ingWOODY

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Fair enough, that'd be enough for me. Just.

Reply 33

DiddyDec01

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So he is of the thinking that women should not have the right to choose what profession they want to be in?

Reply 34

Anonymous #1

maybe he watches feminist porn?

Reply 35

Cherie Amour

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Original post by Hydeman

Then I'd say it counts as phone sex, which could potentially be cheating. :tongue:

But to say just watching people have sex amounts to cheating is a bit far, I think.

Webcamming is phone sex?

I have met all men, thank you very much.
Oh a feminist. Is he a vegan?

Reply 36

Cherie Amour

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Original post by Anonymous

maybe he watches feminist porn?

Shivers at the thought of femdom/female dominant.

Reply 37

drowzee

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Why though? It's really not a big deal.

Reply 38

EllainKahlo

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Original post by Cherie Amour

What if you are cybering with the webcam star? :tongue:

XD No man unless he's Mormon (and even still probably not...maybe then Amish) in the 21st century doesn't watch porn.

Different rules for different couples but I can guess most people wouldn't be happy with that unless they've spoken about it previously or are in an open relationship, nor would I. If I were in a relationship right now, I'd let my partner know these things in advance so that they know the deal and can either agree or bounce.