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How do I meet new girls at uni ?

I'm going in to my second year of uni and I have yet to even get to know a girl on relationship terms.

Now obviously people reading this don't know how I look like or anything about me, but speaking truthfully, I am actually a very good looking guy, it's just I don't know how to approach a girl.

Like I'd see a girl I think is hot, but how do I get to know her ? Do I just walk up to her and say hello or something. I also get a lot of girls looking at me and smiling, but I just have a serious face most of the time.

I'm clueless. Any advice ?
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
I'm going in to my second year of uni and I have yet to even get to know a girl on relationship terms.

Now obviously people reading this don't know how I look like or anything about me, but speaking truthfully, I am actually a very good looking guy, it's just I don't know how to approach a girl.

Like I'd see a girl I think is hot, but how do I get to know her ? Do I just walk up to her and say hello or something. I also get a lot of girls looking at me and smiling, but I just have a serious face most of the time.

I'm clueless. Any advice ?


If you're at a bar or something just walk up to a girl you like the look of and say hi, or if you see her around just say hi and smile at her/make eye contact as often as you can. That way, if she likes you back you'll be able to tell e.g. if she makes eye contact with you a lot in return.

Seeing as I'm a female I can tell you that the surer a girl is that a guy likes her, the more obvious she will be in returning his interest if she likes him back.

Maybe ask your friends to set you up with friends or get involved in societies (if you have any) and try to widen your friendship group/ who you talk to?

I'm about to start the first year btw. I'm nervous but excited :tongue:
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Reply 2
Original post by alicia_x
If you're at a bar or something just walk up to a girl you like the look of and say hi, or if you see her around just say hi and smile at her/make eye contact as often as you can. That way, if she likes you back you'll be able to tell if she makes eye contact with you a lot in return etc.

Seeing as I'm a female I can tell you that the surer a girl is that a guy likes her, the more obvious she will be in returning her interest if she likes him back.

Maybe ask your friends to set you up with friends or get involved in societies (if you have any) and try to widen your friendship group/ who you talk to?

I'm about to start the first year btw. I'm nervous but excited :tongue:


The thing is, I'm not speaking of one particular girl who I see often that I like, I'm just saying in general. But with regards to walking up to her and saying hi. Is that not weird like I just say hi then what lool. I'm such an idiot.
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
The thing is, I'm not speaking of one particular girl who I see often that I like, I'm just saying in general. But with regards to walking up to her and saying hi. Is that not weird like I just say hi then what lool. I'm such an idiot.


Ohh, ok. Sorry, I misread. For trying to meet new people in general I'd suggest going out as often as you can (within reason) and trying out the different bars/clubs; not just one. Also, join societies -- is there anyone in your classes that you like? Maybe try talking to them? Have you asked friends to see what they've come up with?

No, I don't think it's weird unless she's clearly giving off vibes that say 'leave me alone,' lol. Just ask them how they are/how it'sgoing. Or how their night's been, or: Are they enjoying themselves? (Maybe offer to buy them a drink?? -- not compulsory btw, although I think this is what a lot of guys do, but who knows?) You could ask them if they're a student/what they're studying? Or: Are they living away from home? Just go from there, really.

I just hope you don't get a shy girl though. That could potentially be awkward. :biggrin:
Reply 4
Original post by alicia_x
Ohh, ok. Sorry, I misread. For trying to meet new people in general I'd suggest going out as often as you can (within reason) and trying out the different bars/clubs; not just one. Also, join societies -- is there anyone in your classes that you like? Maybe try talking to them? Have you asked friends to see what they've come up with?

No, I don't think it's weird unless she's clearly giving off vibes that say 'leave me alone,' lol. Just ask them how they are/how it'sgoing. Or how their night's been, or: Are they enjoying themselves? (Maybe offer to buy them a drink?? -- not compulsory btw, although I think this is what a lot of guys do, but who knows?) You could ask them if they're a student/what they're studying? Or: Are they living away from home? Just go from there, really.

I just hope you don't get a shy girl though. That could potentially be awkward. :biggrin:


I think the idea of joining societies sounds draining. But I do think asking friends to help hook me up is a good idea.. It's just I don't have any friends that I can ask them to help me like that loool.
In a pub ask them to join you for a game of pool if you're not sure what else to say. Everyone likes pool :smile:


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Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
I think the idea of joining societies sounds draining. But I do think asking friends to help hook me up is a good idea.. It's just I don't have any friends that I can ask them to help me like that loool.


Lol. All I can say then is to find as many ways to socialise as possible :biggrin:
If you acquire many dance moves and just do your thing on the dance floor at clubs you'l get loads of girls and dudes tryna befriend you cus they think you're cool lol. I never actively try to talk to anyone I get people tapping me on the shoulder and giving me thumbs ups and tryna chat or whatever. and sometimes want to by me a drink lmao.

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Reply 8
Original post by roosters4sale
From a girl's perspective: Choose the right time to go up to one to say hi. If you're in a relaxed area like a bar, park or cafe (or whatever else) then there's nothing wrong with going up to a girl you like the look of and saying hi. ...Obvs if you want to say more than just "hi", you could invite her and her friends to sit with you and your friends and all get to know eachother (therefore you have an excuse to get to know her better), or give her a hand carrying something/ giving directions and then chatting about what she studies and whetehr she'd like to hang out later. It seems awkward in writing but you kind of just have to start from square 1 and you'll get more laid back/confident approaching girls. They're not that scary...but i understand that approaching a girl you like with all her friends is kind of daunting, I get that. Finally, I get that everyone has a serious face at times when they don't realize it and they're just doing their own thing but body language is a big giveaway as to the mood you're in and how you feel about a person. You've already said you're good looking so when with a girl u like, smile, make eye contact (crucial to show that you're relaxed in their company), stand upright but look relaxed and casually pass her a compliment or make her laugh...not out of the blue though, introduce yourself first and ask about her so she recognises that your interested in her (us girls enjoy talking about ourselves) and ya. hope this helps.


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Original post by ChickenMadness
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This is the best advice you've received so far, OP.

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