What’s wrong with the guys in the sports clubs?
What kind of friends, and how do they know the guys? E.g. childhood friends + childhood friends = more likely to have more balanced relations vs. uni friends + uni friends = more likely to encounter blokes looking for little besides a cheeky squeeze
These parts speak for themselves
See more serious/withdrawn guys will tend to be relatively intimidated/put off by these qualities vs. more LADish/outgoing guys will tend to be relatively drawn to them, but primarily on the basis of seeking out ‘party girls’. I’m not for a moment suggesting you should try to be something/someone you’re not – especially where inhibiting/dulling down is concerned, but it’s as well to be aware of this and to try to moderate related behaviours to some extent when you meet someone new whom you would like to take you seriously
This is going to sound a bit random but it’s as well to be prepared for sexual bants and to learn how to roll with it in an ‘I’m OK, you’re OK’ positive way that neither turns them off nor gives them the green light to continue quite in the same vein. Complete LADS aside, many guys will operate within the bounds of social acceptability; if you communicate that you are a sexual being, and sexually interested, but also expecting and worthy of respect, and certainly not the kind of girl to get on her back at the click of their fingers, then you’ll find that if guys are interested (enough) they will moderate their behaviour and something approaching balance will be achieved, for a while at least
Trouble is (as you will know) many of those blokes who
are interested in quality relationships are taken and pursuing them/finding out if they’re available, never mind interested, can be a bit fraught for a girl. Methinks you should perhaps get into the mindset that the bar/club scene is unlikely to yield all too many opportunities to make high quality connections with that type of guy, and expand your horizons.
Here’s a list of places to meet new people that I created primarily with males in mind but that you may nevertheless find helpful – please consider that whilst I routinely discourage young men from using it, and favour real life connections in general, online dating can be very worthwhile for young women, particularly now that it's gone mainstream/become less stigmatised