Your post demonstrates a fundamental misunderstanding of what the term 'patriarchy' actually means. A patriarchal society is one in which positions of power are held primarily by men, and in which property, rights, names and titles are inherited via male kin.
Patriarchy theory refers to the social system in which a society operates, not the individuals within that society. It is not the fault of most men that society operates like this, nor is it the fault of most women.
In a broad sense patriarchal societies hold traditionally 'masculine' traits above traditionally 'female' traits. Traditionally masculine traits include aggressiveness, competitiveness, independence and physical strength, and traditionally female traits include sensitivity, kindness, innocence and submissiveness. This benefits anyone who is a) male and b) has these traits, while simultaneously putting down anyone else. However, it also damages these chosen few, by limiting their opportunities and preventing them from being anything other than 'masculine'.
A recognition that patriarchy exists does not necessarily render traditionally 'masculine' traits as bad. They are still positive traits to have. All feminists are saying is that feminine traits are positive too, and that being male/having masculine traits should not entitle anyone to positions of power, nor inherent authority and social status,
Patriarchy places limits on everyone, male or female. That doesn't mean that they should accept it, though. Devolution of patriarchy would benefit all of society.