Do you consider deal-breakers before you get into a relationship?

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Big deal breaker would be if they were racist, smoked, and/or were desperate to have kids. I wouldn't say them not wanting pets would be a deal breaker, but if I had pets when we started dating my animals would come first. They'd have to deal with that or we'd break up.

I say desperate for kids, because a) I'm unable to have any biologically, and b) I don't particularly want them - so if they can't accept that, I'd feel incredibly bad about holding them back from their wishes. If they were cool with adopting we could work around it, but again, I'd feel awful staying in a relationship with them when I'm not hyped about having any.

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Reply 21

Bupdeeboowah

Original post by Oh ooo

Wearing socks and sandal in the winter time. :colonhash:

Spotted the Tory scum.

Reply 22

Oh ooo

Original post by Bupdeeboowah

Spotted the Tory scum.

Reported, for unnecessary insults.

Reply 23

Bupdeeboowah

Original post by Oh ooo

Reported, for unnecessary insults.

WAKE UP the MsM is controlled by the Tories stop believing HATEMONGERING LIES and stop looking down on us sandal-wearing socialists!

Reply 24

Rakas21

Deal breakers for me..

Does not want marriage
Cannot have or does not want children
Strong history of genetic disease
Blames the boyfriend or man for her prior cheating

Could look past..

Strongly feminist
Inferior family members and exes (violent ECT..)

Reply 25

GingerJoe

Heavy smokers, heavy drug users anything above weed, people who completely write off marriage and children from the very beginning, liars

Few others - I don't think above list is unreasonable.

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Reply 26

PusE

I didn't used to, but now yeah, I have a list of things that I cannot have in a partner:

Has cheated in the past,
Has been to a hooker,
Has mental health problems - I'm sorry but I'm not going down that road again. Plus, it wouldn't be a good idea if both of us had mental health issues.
Has a child.
Doesn't want to wear condoms.
Indecisive dudes.

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Smoking

Smoking,drug taking,arrogance,racist,doesn't care about looking after themselves/their body/self presentation,obsessed with money/material things,history of cheating,big headed,control freak,doesn't want kids/marriage

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Reply 29

Chicken.M.

not wanting kids is my only 100% deal breaker. Most other stuff is more of a turn off that I can overlook if I like them alot.

Reply 30

Thickfreakness

I have deal breakers but they never stop me from getting into a relationship because sex is more important. I'm willing to put up with someone with a lot of deal breakers if it meant that I'm getting something from her. As long as she's giving it up then I don't care about anything else. After a while when I get bored or after too much headache, I can always just leave.

Reply 31

MrsSheldonCooper

Defo smoking, taking drugs and being arrogant

Reply 32

queen-bee

Original post by Foo.mp3

Corrected for thee :u:

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Ordinarily indeed :h:

I know that so well by now,whatever will we do with you?! I think it's only because you care so much about certain people :smile:

Reply 33

TheThiefOfBagdad

Same name as my mum or other close female relation = insta erection killer.

Reply 34

Oscar.

I hate smoking so much, like eff that, you smoke it's a no go

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Reply 35

username1967813

If they smoked or took drugs

Reply 36

queen-bee

Original post by Foo.mp3

Truth be told, I've never really been all that controlling before (owing to the fact I didn't tend to care all that much about my ex's), but I have always had this concern, at the back of my mind, that when I finally get together with 'the one', I'm going to be a bit.. 'intense' :mute: