I'm not attracted to and avoid so-called 'alpha' males

The alpha/beta thing doesn't really matter as much in the real world. You can have traits attributed to both alpha and beta, instead of you being a black and white apha OR beta smh.

No, don't feel pressured. I'm happier just being myself instead of confining to **** social labels.

I know that most people are probably a mix of traits. But I am referring to the men who actually walk around calling themselves 'alpha' and telling other men to be more 'alpha' and calling other men 'beta'.

But I'm glad that you don't feel pressure to act like those buffoons

I'm pretty sure most Alpha males don't go on The Student Room.

Am I the only women who is just not turned on by alpha males?

I mean first of all I find the whole concept ridiculous when these self-proclaimed alphas tout about how much 'game' they have and how life for them is about attaining status simply to get more women into bed. I mean I just feel that is so sad and empty really. I can't understand why any woman would want to go for an emotionally unavailable, ego-centric man who's life purpose is to conquer woman after woman with no regard for their well being whatsoever. And even if they do commit to a woman they will later trade her in for a newer model. I mean chasing an alpha male, or letting him pursue you, is just asking for a hard life. I've had quite a few of these 'alphas' try it on with me but I see through their BS and shut them down.

I would much rather a man who is emotionally intelligent and available, sees me a an equal and is a team player, is genuine rather than trying to put on an hard-man act and is truly confident (not an egomaniac...), passionate about their field rather than just pursuing it to get more women, doesn't play games and focuses on building a real connection.

Guys accuse us of chasing all of the bad boys and ignoring all the nice guys. I do hope to see things change where we as women will start to look a bit deeper and see who we can form a better connection and a healthy relationship with. My boyfriend is one of the nice, sweet, caring guys and still very successful and hard working he graduated recently from a top law school and got a TC - he is very passionate for the love of his subject rather than doing it just to impress people or rake in the women.


So what do you think?
Men do you feel pressure to put on an 'alpha' front and attain more status? And women do fall time and time again for these types of men?

Am I the only women who is just not turned on by alpha males?

I mean first of all I find the whole concept ridiculous when these self-proclaimed alphas tout about how much 'game' they have and how life for them is about attaining status simply to get more women into bed. I mean I just feel that is so sad and empty really. I can't understand why any woman would want to go for an emotionally unavailable, ego-centric man who's life purpose is to conquer woman after woman with no regard for their well being whatsoever. And even if they do commit to a woman they will later trade her in for a newer model. I mean chasing an alpha male, or letting him pursue you, is just asking for a hard life. I've had quite a few of these 'alphas' try it on with me but I see through their BS and shut them down.

I would much rather a man who is emotionally intelligent and available, sees me a an equal and is a team player, is genuine rather than trying to put on an hard-man act and is truly confident (not an egomaniac...), passionate about their field rather than just pursuing it to get more women, doesn't play games and focuses on building a real connection.

Guys accuse us of chasing all of the bad boys and ignoring all the nice guys. I do hope to see things change where we as women will start to look a bit deeper and see who we can form a better connection and a healthy relationship with. My boyfriend is one of the nice, sweet, caring guys and still very successful and hard working he graduated recently from a top law school and got a TC - he is very passionate for the love of his subject rather than doing it just to impress people or rake in the women.


So what do you think?
Men do you feel pressure to put on an 'alpha' front and attain more status? And women do fall time and time again for these types of men?

Why do girls always have to kill it by saying guys have to be confident, why can't you just be attracted to awkward weirdos with no social skills... GAH!

But I don't think your right in saying most women chase these egocentric misogynistic types, in fact I don't think there's that many guys like that, it's just an assumption people make when they see a group of guys who look a certain way when in fact their most likely perfectly nice people who've just drunken to much.

I accidentally repped you. I'm not sure what rep does. But I want it back.

On topic, why not? I know a few that do.

Why do girls always have to kill it by saying guys have to be confident, why can't you just be attracted to awkward weirdos with no social skills... GAH!

I accidentally repped you. I'm not sure what rep does. But I want it back.

On topic, why not? I know a few that do.

I also think your post seems like your looking down on others 'MY boyfriend is one of the nice sweet caring types' ... 'VERY SUCCESSFUL'

Sorry if this wasn't what you were going for though.

The ones that thrive on their vanity wouldn't really go on an internet forum like thestudentroom.
Doesn't really give them much street credibility.

I'm sure some do, but hence why I said most.

I know very intelligent vain boys. You meet plenty at university. I don't think the guys post regularly but they do use it.

Does your boyfriend get a lot of female attention? Is he very good looking? Is he a rugby player?

I know that most people are probably a mix of traits. But I am referring to the men who actually walk around calling themselves 'alpha' and telling other men to be more 'alpha' and calling other men 'beta'.

But I'm glad that you don't feel pressure to act like those buffoons