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Sex better to deal with desires than masturbation?

Hi all,

I am a male virgin by choice. I am in my late 20s. I don't want to lose it by choice, it's not nothing to do with religion or culture. I want to wait for the right person. I have an age limit which I will wait until, if I don't find the right person.

However I am contemplating losing it for a particular reason. I have a very high sex drive it seems. Sometimes I can masturbate 5 times and still be horny afterwards. It really drains me and takes up a lot of time. I don't like porn (it seems empty to me) and have to use my imagination to get it going. Most of the days I need to masturbate 2-3 times a day and it wont take up as much of my time, but other days I have to do more.

Now I have been thinking, If sex will help me solve this masturbation problem. Someone offered me a FWB and I said no way! But if this means it will reduce my need to ejaculate so many times a day/week then I might consider it. Another problem is the FWB wont last more than a few months.

I am thinking that if having sex once a week will mean that I masturbate much less the other times of the week then its worth it. If not then I wont go for it.

So will sex help me?
Reply 1
its fairly simple.

Let x = sex
y = no sex

if we derive your utility function u = 4x^2 - 26y + 12x - T

Differentiate with respect to x

8x + 12 = 0

x = -3/2

As a result (and following a cournot equilibrium with adjacent redundancies), your utility in regards to time is negative.

So you shouldnt
Sex is much more satisfying than masturbation. However I have a really high sex drive and I still do it several times a day, being with my boyfriend just makes me want to do it more. It's definitely even better with the right person (for me, not everyone will say the same). Personally I'd wait and try to find someone you really care about, but it's up to you
Reply 3
Original post by georgiaswift
Sex is much more satisfying than masturbation. However I have a really high sex drive and I still do it several times a day, being with my boyfriend just makes me want to do it more. It's definitely even better with the right person (for me, not everyone will say the same). Personally I'd wait and try to find someone you really care about, but it's up to you


Pleasure is no issue for me. I don't mind that masturbation wont be as nice a sex.

So it makes your desires higher? Is this true for men too?
Reply 4
Original post by jlsmpV2
its fairly simple.

Let x = sex
y = no sex

if we derive your utility function u = 4x^2 - 26y + 12x - T

Differentiate with respect to x

8x + 12 = 0

x = -3/2

As a result (and following a cournot equilibrium with adjacent redundancies), your utility in regards to time is negative.

So you shouldnt


Finally someone gets it.
try nofap and have sex mayn
Reply 6
Original post by georgiaswift
Sex is much more satisfying than masturbation. However I have a really high sex drive and I still do it several times a day, being with my boyfriend just makes me want to do it more. It's definitely even better with the right person (for me, not everyone will say the same). Personally I'd wait and try to find someone you really care about, but it's up to you


Jesus God
*slowly takes glasses off*
A female body is about a million times better than your hand. You're beating the meat multiple times every day, so having sex just once per week will do absolutely nothing for you. You need sex multiple times every day, indefinitely.

You're free to impose restrictions on yourself, it's your life and you get to decide what to do. But it's very obvious that you need women to have sex with, you've denied yourself that and your deprivation is clearly having a negative effect on your life.

Of course sex will help you. You need it multiple times every day. If you don't get it multiple times per day, every day, then you'll keep on doing what you're doing because you can't help it. You're fighting your biological desires but you're fighting a losing battle. Time to change the game plan.
Original post by Anonymous
Pleasure is no issue for me. I don't mind that masturbation wont be as nice a sex.

So it makes your desires higher? Is this true for men too?


The more I'm with him (and the more I do it) the more I want to do it. It is very satisfying so yes, it does make my desires higher. I'm pretty sure it's true for my boyfriend but I can't speak for every male out there
Original post by King Mal
Jesus God
*slowly takes glasses off*


Haha what is it?
Original post by jlsmpV2
its fairly simple.

Let x = sex
y = no sex

if we derive your utility function u = 4x^2 - 26y + 12x - T

Differentiate with respect to x

8x + 12 = 0

x = -3/2

As a result (and following a cournot equilibrium with adjacent redundancies), your utility in regards to time is negative.

So you shouldnt


pls provide a proof to how you derived f(x)
I find masturbation more pleasurable than sex. Also its much less effort and I am a lazy ****er.

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