Would you speak to a former school bully?

I have had like 100 bullies and i have a grudge on all of them. I avoid my ex bullies in uni like the plaque.

Also one of my former bullies is now famous.

No, i'm not bullied in uni. The people who bullied me in school, about 5 of them go to my current uni (the uni i go is too bait)

Would you speak to them even if they were a b*tch to you in school and they wanted to be your friend after you left school?

Or would you hold a grudge?

Going slightly off thread to talk about my own experiences. Even though I hate bullying, and have indeed been bullied, I do wonder, that in hindsight, at 24, that I may perhaps been been overly sensitive, naive, and even "Sheltered" as a kid/ teen; coming from a fairly strict (but liberal) family of teachers. Much of this "bullying" was in fact quite banterey, others wasn't however. It was mainly sneering comments about my interests, sometimes my appearance (moobs were often a talking point, still struggle with them, despite being an avid cyclist), calling me "posh" and criticising the way I talk, etc.
It might seem strange to many on here, but I (a guy), was actually bullied quite a bit by girls. Some chavvy type girls, others stuck-up, bitchy cliques. Mainly bitchy/ catty comments like "You're actually going to die a virgin", "You're so ugly, why would anyone like you", and other things along those lines. Once a couple of girls I was sat next to, started touching my legs in class, making me embarrassed and leave class, and going on to start catty rumours of me "Cumming my pants".

Aside from a few brawls in Primary school, I don't recall ever being properly being physically bullied in school however.

To answer the question: I think it depends really. Obviously in work/ public situations, I would speak to them; an old bully works at a village pub a few miles away. I went to with a few friends a couple of years ago, and did ask after me. Can't bring myself to forgive him though. In terms of Facebook, I will accept minor "bullies" in primary school, as I think we all accept Primary school doesn't really define us. With regard to Secondary school, I will accept people who were either "friends of bullies"/ "might've joined in once or twice"/ "simply didn't like much"/ "Found annoying". The 6-7 bullies who were the real instigators/ really seemed to dislike me, I will never accept however. There was a guy who throughout secondary school, bullied me quite a lot; probably mainly through musical jealously. He's a fairly average to above average Guitarist, and would go on about me, saying: "You play Clarinet, that's a Girl's instrument" and "You play Saxophone, that's an old people's instrument". I'd say back: "You're a Guitarist, there aren't a million of those already!" It went on and off throughout secondary school. However, at college, that all seemed to stop. It seems he finally came round to accept our separate interests and we began to chat fairly often!

College and Uni were mainly great though; there were a few knobs, but you get them anywhere!

In summary: I think it's all very much subjective. You have to look into how and why certain people "bullied" you.

Yeah I had some of that type of bullying, i.e the tripping up, kicking footballs etc. Also other people mocking answers to questions in class too.

Possibly. Although bullies do try to hide jealousy very well.


It makes you wonder what thrill they're actually getting from doing it?

It's all very well and good to talk about it from the perspective of a 24 year old, but can it all really be attributed to immaturity? If we, for a year, were to be placed back into exactly the same environment as the secondary school we went to, it makes you wonder what the consequences would be?