I don't love him as much as he loves me (HELP)

I dont like the sound of him putting pressure on you to change. If you're in a relationship with somebody, they should accept you for who you are.

I know what it feels like to be trapped, i can wholly relate to this. Even though you're aware it will hurt him, it is equally bad to tell him you love him if you don't. He deserves the truth and you deserve freedom from a partnership that is leaving you feeling isolated like this.

I think you should consider leaving.

Hello all, I was wondering if any of you could help me.

I am currently dating a guy whom is amazing in every way, he buys me stuff, appreciates me and asks how my day is. The only problem is that I don't think I feel the same way as him anymore.

We have been dating almost two months and he met me over Facebook, turned out he was going to the same university as me and I really liked his personality.

My problem is that I had broken up with my ex a year earlier and I wasn't ready for a relationship but thought I should give him a chance. He had broken up around the same time too, and it was clear that he was alone and I had felt like it was the least I could do.

I feel like a horrible person, he always kisses me, tells me loves me and makes me say it back to him even though I don't know if I do. Sometimes he makes me stay with him until he sleeps and I cry at night because I feel so guilty.

One night he took me out for a date and told me that I should eat salad as "I've had enough" and repeated it until we argued about it later and there have been other instances where he hinted I should change, but he always buys me things to make up for it, to show he loves me.

Personally, I care about him. And I don't want to hurt him, because I can tell it would kill him if I left, but there are times I think of other guys, think of my ex. I never have felt so trapped and so conflicted of my feelings.

If someone could please give me advice I would be grateful.

thank you, and you are right. I feel I just can't do better which is why I am with him and I certainly need to get that thought out of my head

What do you mean by "can't do better"?

I think it's more that you just don't seem compatible. Don't stay with him for the sake of insecurity. Again, that isn't healthy for either of you.

I think i meant that because he is always around me, giving me attention I am scared of being alone. But I realise like you say, it is not right or healthy for me to think like that, because I can be fine.

If you don't feel the same way about him you should break up, it isn't fair. Plus the fact that he's trying to change you, telling you what you should eat etc, and then buying you things to make up for it is a red flag. If somebody I'd only been dating for two months told me what to eat or tried to hint that I should change, he'd be out the door

it's just a bit of salad...

There is something to be learned from this thread. The more a man invests into his girlfriend/ spouse, the less attractive he becomes to her. Your boyfriend was deluded into thinking that he could buy your affection, when ironically that just made him less and less attractive.

Put him out of his misery already.

thank you, I should dump him, i just don't want to make things awkward now :/

thank you, I should dump him, i just don't want to make things awkward now :/

From the moment I read the part you said he buys you stuff I knew where this was going. Don't forget that it easy for some people to buy affection. I hope you make the right decision! It's only been two months at the end of the day, so either leave and find happiness or continue to be unhappy in this relationship.

Love wavers and changes.

What should matter is that you like him.

Love will come back. Just give it time. If you break up someone every time you feel bad, you will never have a successful relationship.

And contrary to what someone else said: his happiness is your responsibility. If you care about him, you will make sacrifices and change yourself to make him happy.

Good luck. I hope it works out for you.

There's no way out. Basically, you're ****ed. This is why I don't do relationships.

You have to leave his sorry ass now.

I dont like the sound of him putting pressure on you to change. If you're in a relationship with somebody, they should accept you for who you are.

I know what it feels like to be trapped, i can wholly relate to this. Even though you're aware it will hurt him, it is equally bad to tell him you love him if you don't. He deserves the truth and you deserve freedom from a partnership that is leaving you feeling isolated like this.

I think you should consider leaving.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing but perhaps you should have said you weren't ready. Probably best if you are honest and tell him that you don't want a relationship otherwise in the long run he will be more hurt if you let this continue like this.