The ex

I got a pleasant and friendly reply, she's not doing so great but well enough (condensed version), she asked me how everything was.
Sent a nice friendly message, nothing about our past, I'm doing really well so it was a positive message but not I'm doing better without you sort of a thing.

Maybe it upsets her that you're doing really well since the break up but she isn't? She possibly felt you were bragging or what you said implied that you're better off without her, because girls get worried over stuff like that easily.
OR
She's just been busy. You can always send another message saying hi and see if you get a response?

So my ex broke up about 3 months ago, it was relatively mutual - no cheating or anything bad, just the spark had gone and our feelings weren't the same anymore. She asked if we could stay friends.

I contacted her a few days ago after not talking for 3 months. Just to see how she was, how her new job and new location was and to show there was no hard feelings. Also acknowledged my failings in the relationship.

I got a pleasant and friendly reply, she's not doing so great but well enough (condensed version), she asked me how everything was.

I replied a day later as I was busy with work and went out with friends after. Sent a nice friendly message, nothing about our past, I'm doing really well so it was a positive message but not I'm doing better without you sort of a thing.

She's seen it and read it but hasn't replied in 4 days. I'm not going to push it but this is the first time I'm in this situation and was wondering why she might not feel like a friendly chat?

Thanks

I really wanted to make sure that the message I sent wasn't like that (had it checked over by both male and female friends who are more experienced with breakup) so I hope that isn't the case.

Thank you or the other responses. We were together for 3 years so I hope friendship could be on the cards as she was a nice person - but I'll understand if she says she can't/won't be.

I really wanted to make sure that the message I sent wasn't like that (had it checked over by both male and female friends who are more experienced with breakup) so I hope that isn't the case.

Thank you or the other responses. We were together for 3 years so I hope friendship could be on the cards as she was a nice person - but I'll understand if she says she can't/won't be.

Hmm that's tough, I can see your predicament. Perhaps she's not ready yet...Do you still have feelings for her? Or does she more like have any feelings for you anymore? Would you know?

Leave it at that.

Why even bother being friends with an ex. Pathetic.

Because we are both decent adults. You don't have to hate your ex.

I don't hate my exes lol... I just don't want them in my life.

You're right I'm sorry. I suppose on some level I do want her in my life. I mean we spoke nearly everyday for 3 years. I was in love for 2 years and well I miss her.

You're right I'm sorry. I suppose on some level I do want her in my life. I mean we spoke nearly everyday for 3 years. I was in love for 2 years and well I miss her.

But what is that "level", is it friendship or a relationship, because you certainly can't have both.

You've turned into a new chapter of your life, embrace it and the loves you'll have next.