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Not sure if doing this is normal...

I've been aware that over the last 2 years particularly I've gotten into the habit of talking to myself. But it's not like muttering under my breath, it's more having a conversation with myself pretending to be another person that I know. They're usually different people each time and I put myself in a different scenario.
Sometimes I do it when I'm upset or angry about something so that it feels like I'm almost listening to my own problems? But I put myself in the mind of the other person. I don't know whether this is some kind of coping mechanism or if it's abnormal behaviour, but I find myself doing it several times a day.

Does anyone else do the same thing? Is it normal?

Thanks

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Reply 1
I don't do this, but I kinda understand what you mean. I don't think it's "abnormal" in the sense you need to go seek professional help, it's just unusual, yeah probably a coping mechanism. But if you are really worried then see someone if it makes you feel better.
Omg i do this! Usually ive im practicing what i have to say to someone but also to talk out my problems with myself is that weird?
Original post by anonymous
i've been aware that over the last 2 years particularly i've gotten into the habit of talking to myself. But it's not like muttering under my breath, it's more having a conversation with myself pretending to be another person that i know. They're usually different people each time and i put myself in a different scenario.
Sometimes i do it when i'm upset or angry about something so that it feels like i'm almost listening to my own problems? But i put myself in the mind of the other person. I don't know whether this is some kind of coping mechanism or if it's abnormal behaviour, but i find myself doing it several times a day.

Does anyone else do the same thing? Is it normal?

Thanks
Reply 3
Original post by missytwinpeaks
Omg i do this! Usually ive im practicing what i have to say to someone but also to talk out my problems with myself is that weird?


That's what I do, but I just put myself in the position of the other person. I think it gets more prominent when I'm feeling anxious or upset
Original post by Anonymous
That's what I do, but I just put myself in the position of the other person. I think it gets more prominent when I'm feeling anxious or upset


we must be okat if its both of us right? XD
Reply 5
hey are you saying you put yourself in the position of another person whilst imagining talking to you?

interesting, I suffer from a similar problem but I never imagine myself in the scenario
Original post by missytwinpeaks
we must be okat if its both of us right? XD


I do this as well. :biggrin: But I tend to do it as a coping mechanism as I grew up pretty much alone and didn't have anyone to talk to. :biggrin:
.......were normal....yeah?(:/)
Original post by saule1116
I do this as well. :biggrin: But I tend to do it as a coping mechanism as I grew up pretty much alone and didn't have anyone to talk to. :biggrin:
I do it ALLL the time. Sometimes speaking to myself out loud allows me to focus better on what I'm thinking about.
Original post by missytwinpeaks
.......were normal....yeah?(:/)


We probably just need to find normal people to talk to (like to the extent where we can rant and they won't mind :biggrin: ).
I also tend to explain the topic that I am learning to myself out loud in order to remember it... :biggrin: So I do talk to myself a lot, but, on the bright side, my communication skills seem to be damn good :biggrin:
Haha that's what I do ALL the time! :tongue: I hope it's normal... :redface:
The fact is, I have a lot of siblings, but being the only girl, I guess it's still a kind of coping mechanism. Often, I'll pretend I'm one of my friends, and I'll be telling her all about something that's just happened recently, only in a more private way than how I would usually speak to her. Sometimes, I just talk to myself, without a "second person"; I find it so enjoyable (Uh-oh:tongue:) that I could spend hours doing it, which is why my parents go nuts over my "hour-showers", even though the water is turned off most of the time. I don't know if that's even vaguely normal, and your post has comforted me SO MUCH - I thought I might be getting schizophrenic, or something else worrying :tongue:
Original post by MJlover
hey are you saying you put yourself in the position of another person whilst imagining talking to you?

interesting, I suffer from a similar problem but I never imagine myself in the scenario


Yeah. I talk to myself as the other person, and answer as myself. But I imagine BEING that other person and talking through something or events with myself.
Original post by Tom Jickleson
I do it ALLL the time. Sometimes speaking to myself out loud allows me to focus better on what I'm thinking about.


Yes I think many people do that. I have to talk about a topic to myself as a way to revise for exams, but that's not what I was referring to when I mentioned talking to myself. I was more specifically talking about holding conversations with myself as another persona.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes I think many people do that. I have to talk about a topic to myself as a way to revise for exams, but that's not what I was referring to when I mentioned talking to myself. I was more specifically talking about holding conversations with myself as another persona.


So you'll take on two different characters during a conversation?
Original post by Anonymous
Haha that's what I do ALL the time! :tongue: I hope it's normal... :redface:
The fact is, I have a lot of siblings, but being the only girl, I guess it's still a kind of coping mechanism. Often, I'll pretend I'm one of my friends, and I'll be telling her all about something that's just happened recently, only in a more private way than how I would usually speak to her. Sometimes, I just talk to myself, without a "second person"; I find it so enjoyable (Uh-oh:tongue:) that I could spend hours doing it, which is why my parents go nuts over my "hour-showers", even though the water is turned off most of the time. I don't know if that's even vaguely normal, and your post has comforted me SO MUCH - I thought I might be getting schizophrenic, or something else worrying :tongue:


It's crazy how similar we are! I'm the only girl in my family too and get lonely, and often distressed because we have a poor relationship with each other. I'm comforted by your reply and I know I'm not the only person who does this :smile: I was worried it might have been something sinister, as I already suffer from depression and GAD. :smile:
Original post by Tom Jickleson
So you'll take on two different characters during a conversation?


Yes.
Original post by Anonymous
Yes.


why
hey, i am quite introverted and focus inwards rather than outwards. this means i have lots of internal dialouge and yes i totally understand what you mean when you say you think of scenarious, i do this as well. Like i will think what if this happened, what would i say and end up talking to myself internaly. Iw ouldn't say it is abnormal for you to do it allowed, just that you are a very self aware person who prefers their own company :smile:
Original post by Tom Jickleson
why


I'm not sure, it's so involuntary that it only hit me this morning that what I was doing couldn't have been normal. And the irony is that I was imagining talking to someone else about it being abnormal! I'm not sure whether it's down to wanting to socialise but having no-one to socialise with to the extent that I'm taking on the roles of 2 people, or whether it's because at times I need someone to vent to or cry to but don't want to burden anyone with having to listen to my problems. So it's kind of like a coping mechanism as it's like I'm talking it through with someone, but in actual fact I'm not.
Original post by CoolCavy
hey, i am quite introverted and focus inwards rather than outwards. this means i have lots of internal dialouge and yes i totally understand what you mean when you say you think of scenarious, i do this as well. Like i will think what if this happened, what would i say and end up talking to myself internaly. Iw ouldn't say it is abnormal for you to do it allowed, just that you are a very self aware person who prefers their own company :smile:


Thank you, that's really reassuring. :smile:

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