People who don't want kids are lucky.

Well, yes, most people are materialistic and stupid and spend their days working 9-5 just so they can afford to live in some fancy place that they don't need, drive a fancy car they don't need and buying an iPhone that they don't need. I am not one of those people, I am a minimalist so this isn't a problem for me. Clearly, since I will not have kids, I will only live with my partner who will obviously share a room with me, therefore we only need a one bedroom place. Spending on anything bigger than this would be money down the drain, I wouldn't get a bigger place even if I was rolling in cash.


Everyone wants more disposable income and more freedom - both people who want kids and people who don't. However, only those who want kids want to bring life into this world. So no, there aren't really two sides.

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Personally, I'd feel I would:
a) be lonely
b) not know what to do with this apparent "excess of money" that would come from not having kids
c) feel a hole of some sort in my life

You're minimalist, yet why do you keep mentioning this disposable income?

Also, you can (if you reaaally wanted to) live in a one bedroom flat with a kid, so this destroys the premise of your argument.

Also, everyone wants it, but is it necessary?

I can think of non materialistic ways of using that excess. You could use the excess for charitable good. Or you could just work less. Go 3/4 days a week so you actually have time to enjoy being a human as opposed to being a piece of machinery.

I can think of non materialistic ways of using that excess. You could use the excess for charitable good. Or you could just work less. Go 3/4 days a week so you actually have time to enjoy being a human as opposed to being a piece of machinery.

I also LIKE my career, thank you. The weekends are a perfect time to enjoy being a human too

Being a minimalist doesn't mean you want to live in poverty, it just means you spend your money wisely instead of splashing out on material things which don't really add value to your life.

I am not trying to put forward any 'argument' in my original post, I just highlighted the fact that I feel lucky that I don't need to worry about things like buying a home that is appropriate to raise kids.

Lol exactly. I feel so sad for people who say things like that, the only thing that's worse is 'I dont know what I would do if I didnt have a 9-5 job, I would be so bored'. I guess boring people are bored.

I only have one child but I regret it since the day he popped out.

Well, that is understandable. Would you be so kind as to explain where this excess of money would be going?

I wasn't referring to your OP when I said argument.

I'm sorry but I don't believe that not having kids would make your life automatically better because you don't need to worry about buying a home that is appropriate to raise kids. That's a childish way of thinking about it really.

I mean who sits there and goes "hmm, I have this belief / made this choice. Daaamn, I reaally am so much more lucky than these poor people who didn't make this choice."

Oh no, here we go... I predicted it

Lol exactly. I feel so sad for people who say things like that, the only thing that's worse is 'I dont know what I would do if I didnt have a 9-5 job, I would be so bored'. I guess boring people are bored.

As it's already been said, I would spend my disposable income on savings so that I eventually don't have to work full time or so that I can retire earlier, plus I would spend it on experiences such as travel. I would spend it on living, as opposed to spending it on material possessions.

And again, I am not saying that my life will be better than anyone else's just because I don't have to buy a house. Stop stressing so much about it.

i think a lot of people want kids because they're scared of not being alone in later life.
I want kids when i'm older because i'm extremely maternal and i know i'd be good at it. I want a family and i love family life.
Honestly, i struggle to understand why people wouldn't want children. Not to say i think they should want them, just that i can't relate to it in any way- and that's rare for me because i'm hugely empathetic.

You predicted that I actually like what I do for a living?

You're either immature or clearly haven't met anyone who appreciates their job. I do Pharmacy, so personally: I'd rather be at work, making a difference and talking to people and learning from them, than sit at home. The latter is rather unproductive and depressing. This would be different if I had my own family.

Fair enough.

I'm not stressing about it

Saying you're lucky is just immature tbh

Don't be suchh a strawman.

As I said, boring people are bored: they sit at home when they are not working.