Should I ask her out?

hmmm maybe she taken long to reply sometimes because shes talking to other guys? or maybe shes seeing someone as well as talking to you, has she said to you that your the only guy she speaks to ????

Definitely after 4-5 weeks already speaking? If you are both local enough to each other - which I am assuming you are, using Tinder - get a meet up organised! The last thing you want is to have every topic covered online before even the first date! Ask her out!

I think in these type of situations it's better to meet up asap. I couldn't imagine how it would feel spending x amount of time talking to someone, meeting up and being totally disappointed. So to answer your question, yes ask her out sooner rather than later.

Yes she is about 20 minutes away from me so very local! I am wary of running out of things to talk about as she has slight OCD so her day never really differs I'm just worried that if I say about meeting up and she says no I'll be back to square one and I'm actually really interested in her

Wait, you've been talking to someone for 4-5 weeks and you haven't even met? Is she like a pen-pal or something?

I suppose you're right.. I don't think I'd be disappointed I think we'd get on great, but she hasn't been single that long either and I don't want her to be in that "I don't know what I want" phase and says it's too soon or something

it's difficult!

no not a pen pal haha! Like I said normally If i was interested in someone and I could tell that the yfelt the same I would try to meet ASAP, but with her I can't tell. Some days she's really talkative & flirty and I think yeah I'll ask, and then other times she'll tex tlike twice and reply 2 days later with "sorry, I'm just useless". I really don't want to be rejected, because it's taken me a long time to find someone I actually like after my last relationship

By the way everyone sorry for multiple posts, I don't know how to multi quote yet

Yeah that's whats in my head, no she hasn't said that and I can't really expect her to this early. But if she is seeing someone else then I don't really want the competition kind of thing, I'm not in the right frame of mind for it

You just need to grab the bull by the horns, it's better to find out now than further down the line if she even wants to meet up. And then after you meet up for the first time - to begin with then you'll know if you're really into her, or just into the version of her potrayed through Tinder. Also, then you can get to the more honest phase of are you only speaking to me/dating other guys too at the moment/etc. Good Luck!

Hi All,

Recently I matched with a girl on Tinder who I really like. We've been speaking for about 4-5 weeks now and we get on really well, she's someone I would see myself in a relationship with

My only issue is I can't really gauge her interest :/ some days we speak well, like jokes, in depth and fast replies, but other days and she will be short & won't reply until a day or two later, and she always says something like "sorry Im useless at replying" or "I've been busy" but I know she's off work and only goes to the gym & walks her dog
I understand people being busy but no matter what I'm doing if I'm interested in someone I'll make the effort, and this has happened multiple times to me before so I'm a bit wary

Thing is I have anxiety so I always worry & overthink, like either she's not really that interested or someone else is talking to her. I dont want the conversation to run dry and we end up not speaking, but I also don't want to ask her if I feel she's going to say no and then we just stop speaking

I wanted some other opinions, I'm wondering should I ask her out or should I wait until the conversation is a bit more consistent?

I hear you, but you won't know until you discuss things with her. Only she knows what sure wants and how she's feeling. Communication is key! Try to arrange something with her and gauge the kind of person she is. It isn't easy to read people over the phone, then when the time is right ask her what she's looking for etc.

Go for it youve got nothing to lose.
Just saying tho if youre that close and its been over a month and u still havent met she may not feel how you feel and see you as a friend or something.