Girlfriend laughed at me for asking who this guy was....

She's being a right **** on purpose.
She's either truly chatting to that boy or

she's doing what I have done (when I was a teenager and immature with women I was seeing): I pretended to be on the phone with someone else to see their reaction. So she could not be cheating but it still trying to mind**** you, and laughing that it is working. So either way leave her because that is not healthy at all. She is trying to bully you and I work in criminology and have read numerous cases that start off like this where a vulnerable man was made victim to a preying female. It might not be that deep but it starts out like this. She's no good.



Erm did you read? OP has mental instabilities.




The flick.
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This is true. Girls can be much more emotionally manipulative than guys. It compensates for their lack of physical strength.

...my girlfriend laughed at me/sniggeringly when I asked her who she had been speaking to whilst on phone to me. Heard her saying "I'm on the phone", and upon me asking who was that, she coyly says "its [his name]". She then tells me "why are you asking me" followed by a long pause and a sniggering laugh that really made me fly of the handle.

Are my reactions justifiable, is this a huge Red Flag and sign of disrespect?

I asked her what's she laughing at numerous times and she said she was trying to eat her food, followed by pauses and light laughing. She the texts me post-call to say she felt awkward and she didn't want to talk while he was next to her.

I'm getting more and more angry as time goes on with her behaviour. Is this disrespectful of me? She knows I have anger issues, mental health worries and have paranoia (for which I've had long term ongoing therapy).

You lost me at physical strength. I know too many females even small ones who would destroy you physically off insanity and rage alone.
But yes the girl is being manipulative.

This is true. Girls can be much more emotionally manipulative than guys. It compensates for their lack of physical strength.

You lost me at physical strength. I know too many females even small ones who would destroy you physically off insanity and rage alone.
But yes the girl is being manipulative.

Who, me? You know nothing about me. Guys are much, much stronger than girls, no doubt.

LOL! Those girls aren't even here, so who's pants are you trying to get into, Mr White Knight? Or maybe they are TSR users....

Thats false!!!! Get ur fact straight first before you say stuff about girls.

wtf are you even on about. What girls aren't even where? Jickleson is being sexist, allow it, cupcake.

She's getting fingerbanged on the side

Maybe, but can't prove it so. But she is testing my patience well and truly. As soon as we're fine again she does something odd that she knows will make me pissed off.

I'm not geographically close to her, we only Skype and every 4-8 weeks.

I've been working through things with a therapist, but my inability to control my rage coupled with paranoia is getting too much.

I'm not even looking forward to going to see her, I fear I'll do something stupid.

May ask to meet said guy, as he works with her.

She's getting fingerbanged on the side

Stop forum trolling and make a decent game for a change!

I rather release new games annually and make more money hahaha you peasants are going to buy it regardless hahaha preorder Far Cry Primal for Assassin's Creed 18 beta.

The problem is with anger issues and paranoia you can never be confident whether you have reason to be concerned or it's all in your head.

It sounds funny of her to do what she did from your perspective and I believe in your mind you feel something is up. Maybe it is?

Still she could be entirely on the level and it's just your mind turning on you as it does.


What I do know for sure is that you're in a long-distance relationship with very infrequent contact.
Considering your recovery do you really need the stress and hassle of a distant (geographically and emotionally?) girlfriend?

You cant control her, you can't tell her who she associates with, all you can do is decide if and when you've had enough and chose to leave the situation.


Give it a good long hard think about whether this current relationship is worth the aggravation for you.

It sounds like your girlfriend isn't that terribly invested, and has her attention elsewhere, even if she hasn't done anything wrong and has no real intention to.
Her checking out of the relationship is still grounds to call it off.
You'll also feel way more relief and come off the better guy.


In the mean time continue with prioritizing your recovery. Your mental health, your sanity trumps boobs.