my friend tried to kill himeself
hey guys, just wanted to share a little something,
I am a guy and have been friends with this other guy since year 4, that is 9 years that I have known him. I always knew that he had problems socialising and he only really talked to his close group of friends (about 5 of us).
Yesterday I heard he was hospitalised late at night after he was found attempting to kill himself, he was hospitalised and diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. I have known him for so long and I don't know what to say or do. It is so depressing. I dont know what to say or do.
I am a guy and have been friends with this other guy since year 4, that is 9 years that I have known him. I always knew that he had problems socialising and he only really talked to his close group of friends (about 5 of us).
Yesterday I heard he was hospitalised late at night after he was found attempting to kill himself, he was hospitalised and diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. I have known him for so long and I don't know what to say or do. It is so depressing. I dont know what to say or do.
Try to be strong when near him and make him feel good/laugh. Motivate him and indirectly tell him the blessings he has. Remember a good friend is the one who holds your hand when you are in trouble.
The replies given so far are what you should be thinking of doing if you haven't done so already. Try to make sure that you are near to your friend frequently and make sure he knows that you're always there for him. However, make sure you don't come across as too patronising. He's been through a lot and I'm sure he just needs to chill out with a mate and come to terms with what he has to look forward to in the future. 
Original post by Anonymous
hey guys, just wanted to share a little something,
I am a guy and have been friends with this other guy since year 4, that is 9 years that I have known him. I always knew that he had problems socialising and he only really talked to his close group of friends (about 5 of us).
Yesterday I heard he was hospitalised late at night after he was found attempting to kill himself, he was hospitalised and diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. I have known him for so long and I don't know what to say or do. It is so depressing. I dont know what to say or do.
I am a guy and have been friends with this other guy since year 4, that is 9 years that I have known him. I always knew that he had problems socialising and he only really talked to his close group of friends (about 5 of us).
Yesterday I heard he was hospitalised late at night after he was found attempting to kill himself, he was hospitalised and diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. I have known him for so long and I don't know what to say or do. It is so depressing. I dont know what to say or do.
I'm so sorry to hear that! Try your very best to stay strong in front of him and also try to make him laugh a bit so that he remains distracted from what he's really thinking. If you don't mind me asking, has he ever spoken to you about what he was really thinking?
I really do wish the two of you the best of luck - be happy and stay strong. Look in front of the mirror and SMILE. Say to yourself - 'I can do anything because I'm ****ing amazing and I'm ****ing fantabulous. I am strong, I am happy, I am loved, I am unique, I am wacky and I am beautiful. Always have been, always will be'. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Lots of love, ravioliyears
Although I can't advise you on the suicide front, my best friend (from year 2) developed leukemia a few of years ago so I had to support someone close to death too.
You need to listen to him. If he's opening up about his feelings, open your ears and empathise. If he doesn't want to talk to you, don't force him. The most important thing is being there for him. People who come close to death have a lot going through their minds. Whether it's through cancer or through attempted suicide, a lot is going on in a small, human head. Sometimes, it can be maddening and so, so frustrating. They feel like no one knows what they're going through and, to an extent, we (who haven't been through it) really don't. But it's imperative that you listen and talk to him. It'll give him hope and make him feel like things really can get better.
Now obviously, the difference between my and your situation is that your friend wasn't happy with something. Don't say anything that will upset him. If he lashes out at you verbally, take the heat. He probably doesn't mean it and you're doing him a favour by taking the heat. Things are really crazy in the days right after diagnosis and his family will probably be trying to do everything to make him happy. You need to be the one person who he can genuinely talk to. Don't say things that he could hear from anyone. He needs his best friend. Be honest and open and he'll surely open up with you. Atleast, that's what worked for me
Best of luck man, I really hope things get better. Don't lose hope.
You need to listen to him. If he's opening up about his feelings, open your ears and empathise. If he doesn't want to talk to you, don't force him. The most important thing is being there for him. People who come close to death have a lot going through their minds. Whether it's through cancer or through attempted suicide, a lot is going on in a small, human head. Sometimes, it can be maddening and so, so frustrating. They feel like no one knows what they're going through and, to an extent, we (who haven't been through it) really don't. But it's imperative that you listen and talk to him. It'll give him hope and make him feel like things really can get better.
Now obviously, the difference between my and your situation is that your friend wasn't happy with something. Don't say anything that will upset him. If he lashes out at you verbally, take the heat. He probably doesn't mean it and you're doing him a favour by taking the heat. Things are really crazy in the days right after diagnosis and his family will probably be trying to do everything to make him happy. You need to be the one person who he can genuinely talk to. Don't say things that he could hear from anyone. He needs his best friend. Be honest and open and he'll surely open up with you. Atleast, that's what worked for me
Best of luck man, I really hope things get better. Don't lose hope.
Original post by Student403
Although I can't advise you on the suicide front, my best friend (from year 2) developed leukemia a few of years ago so I had to support someone close to death too.
You need to listen to him. If he's opening up about his feelings, open your ears and empathise. If he doesn't want to talk to you, don't force him. The most important thing is being there for him. People who come close to death have a lot going through their minds. Whether it's through cancer or through attempted suicide, a lot is going on in a small, human head. Sometimes, it can be maddening and so, so frustrating. They feel like no one knows what they're going through and, to an extent, we (who haven't been through it) really don't. But it's imperative that you listen and talk to him. It'll give him hope and make him feel like things really can get better.
Now obviously, the difference between my and your situation is that your friend wasn't happy with something. Don't say anything that will upset him. If he lashes out at you verbally, take the heat. He probably doesn't mean it and you're doing him a favour by taking the heat. Things are really crazy in the days right after diagnosis and his family will probably be trying to do everything to make him happy. You need to be the one person who he can genuinely talk to. Don't say things that he could hear from anyone. He needs his best friend. Be honest and open and he'll surely open up with you. Atleast, that's what worked for me
Best of luck man, I really hope things get better. Don't lose hope.
You need to listen to him. If he's opening up about his feelings, open your ears and empathise. If he doesn't want to talk to you, don't force him. The most important thing is being there for him. People who come close to death have a lot going through their minds. Whether it's through cancer or through attempted suicide, a lot is going on in a small, human head. Sometimes, it can be maddening and so, so frustrating. They feel like no one knows what they're going through and, to an extent, we (who haven't been through it) really don't. But it's imperative that you listen and talk to him. It'll give him hope and make him feel like things really can get better.
Now obviously, the difference between my and your situation is that your friend wasn't happy with something. Don't say anything that will upset him. If he lashes out at you verbally, take the heat. He probably doesn't mean it and you're doing him a favour by taking the heat. Things are really crazy in the days right after diagnosis and his family will probably be trying to do everything to make him happy. You need to be the one person who he can genuinely talk to. Don't say things that he could hear from anyone. He needs his best friend. Be honest and open and he'll surely open up with you. Atleast, that's what worked for me
Best of luck man, I really hope things get better. Don't lose hope.
I think I'm gonna start crying soon..... I'm so sorry about what happened to your friend.
Original post by ravioliyears
I think I'm gonna start crying soon..... I'm so sorry about what happened to your friend.
Don't be sad rav. Alhamdulillah he survived. He had to move abroad so we gradually lost contact but he's still alive and that's what's important
Regardless of whether God really exists or not, faith is really important.Visit him. Try to get talking with each other. It helps. Even if he gets angry for some bull****, an important thing for someone who is depressed is not feeling all alone in this. So just by talking you're helping someone feeling less disconnected who is obviously feeling disconnected. That he has a close group of friends is nice, but where you really a close group of friends? If he didn't try to talk with any of you of this maybe you gave off the impression that you wouldn't want to talk to him if he came with this towards any of you or that he might alienate himself more from the group or that the group didn't really click well.
Therefore more talking helps. Counseling will of course help him too, and if he gets meds for bipolar disorder he will just stay in the stable realm for a while. So you don't have to worry about that so much. Also try to find out what kind of method he tried to suicide himself with. It can reveal if he was serious about the suicide or did it out of desperate loneliness. The ''cry for attention'' suicide shouldn't just be labelled as just ''attentionseekers'', people like that are very lonely and desperate. The motive is important try to figure it out. Most important thing remains talking. From what I make out on what you wrote I think he felt very alone and unwanted somehow.
Therefore more talking helps. Counseling will of course help him too, and if he gets meds for bipolar disorder he will just stay in the stable realm for a while. So you don't have to worry about that so much. Also try to find out what kind of method he tried to suicide himself with. It can reveal if he was serious about the suicide or did it out of desperate loneliness. The ''cry for attention'' suicide shouldn't just be labelled as just ''attentionseekers'', people like that are very lonely and desperate. The motive is important try to figure it out. Most important thing remains talking. From what I make out on what you wrote I think he felt very alone and unwanted somehow.
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