I'm horny but I'm not cut out for hooking up/casual sex

Hello, please keep anon!

So anyway I am a female and it's been a long time since I've had sex... Relieving myself just isn't cutting it one bit.

I know it would be quite easy to find a ONS or a FWB but the problem is I can't seperate sex and emotions and trust is an important aspect for me too. No guys are asking me out on dates let alone to be in a relationship so it may be a while before I get a boyfriend, if ever.

I'm so horny I've actually cried my eyes out over this.

Serious answers only please. What should I do?

Well why not approach men and ask them out?

What do you want?

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If you're in your 20s, use meetup.com singles groups or interest groups to socialise with new people face to face and eventually find a partner so that you don't make a mistake and feel like ****/empty afterwards.

Casual sex can be just awful...agreed. there's nothing worse than and awkward and souless shag with someone who probably doesn't even respect you and usually guys into ons are really selfish lovers. Why do they need to be good if it's for one night? You do want GOOD sex right?

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I did... I've made a thread about this before and got encouraged to do it by TSRians and then he rejected me I'm pretty burned right now so I don't think I will be asking again any time soon. No one wants to date me.

Aww don't say that. I'm sure many men find you very attractive! Also, while I give you kudos for approaching a guy, him shooting you down doesn't mean you just give up. If every guy who was ever rejected once by a girl just gave up trying, we'd have FAR less relationships and marriages I'll tell you that.

I myself have been rejected several times. It doesn't stop me from trying. Now that maybe because I don't expect anyone to approach me tbh, so I end up thinking I have to do all the work, but I think having an optimistic, humble outlook is best. Just think of it as a learning curve, and always remember that whenever you ask a guy out, the worst they can say is 'no'. If that happens, you just strut away thinking "well who cares, there's someone much better out there for me anyway" and you carry on.

You should Pm me:P

that must have required a lot of confidence. Respect for that. It really is true when people say there's plenty of fish in the sea. Given you are experiencing these emotions there are dating sites, also apps like tinder can allow you to at least express your feelings towards someone else. You're destined to meet someone, if you are quite young there is a loooong time ahead of you so there's no need to worry. The right person will come, this is quite natural for a lot of people. Try the apps out and in the meantime. Everyone will have got a rejection in their life seriously. Its about how strong you are at being able to move on! Seriously im sure almost everyone on TSR has received a rejection of some sort.
Stay Blessed and I hope it all works out for you

I can't take threads like this very seriously, you know very well if you want to do what you want to do you can do it. So this to me is just a little like attention seeking.

Yes you are right, thank you. Perhaps I need to be more resilient towards rejection. It's a huge fear of mine and I can't tell you how hard it was to ask him! I was supported by you guys here who helped give me the courage Of course I'm sad and feel insecure that he rejected me but I'm happy that I faced my fear. Hopefully in time the experience will make me stronger.

I know you said getting yourself off isn't quite cutting it but have you tried toys etc? They make life a lot easier. And very satisfying. Magic wands are wonderful until you do manage to meet someone you feel comfortable enough to be intimate with, don't rush into it though.

Ok. Hope you feel better soon