Missing my best friend

My best friend lives abroad and recently I really miss her and it is starting to get me down. I dread her visiting because I know she will have to leave. Any advice on how to deal with a long distance friendship?

Reply 1

jenni:)

Skype? I know it's not the same but it's something?

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Reply 2

El1710

Original post by jenni:)

Skype? I know it's not the same but it's something?

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Thanks, we Skype about once a week :smile:

Reply 3

honestly

Original post by El1710

How far away will she be? In the UK? or EU state?

Skype is a start and just generally good communication and keeping one another inundated with progress in life will make you feel much better. And maybe once a month meetup together (plenty of cheap transport ticket sites even for EU destinations.)

Reply 4

El1710

Original post by honestly

She lives in Germany. I get to see her one or twice a year at the moment

Reply 5

dhr90

I know how you feel. My best friend lives the other side of the country. We've seen each other maybe twice this year. It's tough, but we both know the other will be there, if we really need to talk about anything.

Try to arrange trips to visit each other and stay at each others to cut down on costs.

But at the same time, you have to realise that sometimes, with distance and moving on with life, some friendships just don't last no matter how much you might try to make them do so.

Reply 6

sr90

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My best friend moved 300 miles away once she finished uni and even though we still talk every day I just can't cope without her.

I get so jealous and upset seeing her go out and meet loads of new people. I'm happy for her but I feel like **** knowing she's out making a new life for herself whilst i'm just sat alone in my flat, binging on junk food and wishing I had someone to talk to. It feels like she doesn't need me anymore and she's eventually going to replace me and move on.

I'm struggling so much without her and it's undoubtedly affecting our friendship because 90% of our conversations are just me unloading all my problems on to her. I can't even go and visit because she doesn't have a job or any money.

If I had other people i'd be fine but I have no friends in this city at all.

Reply 7

El1710

Original post by sr90

I know how you feel, but my friends shares the same feelings as me and struggles with the distance too. Try and be happy for her. Yeah it is crap but i guess the distance shouldn't stop you from living your life and them living theirs. Maybe just try and turn the conversation to a common interest rather than loads of problems. I hope you get to see them soon

Reply 8

sr90

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Original post by El1710

Yeh I feel bad because she doesn't have many friends either, and she's in the same boat as me in that she's lost touch with a lot of people. At least with her, her boyfriend is really popular so she's always meeting people through him.

It sucks because i'm planning to get her an awesome Christmas present but won't be able to give it to her in person.