I'm sexually frustrated, but I don't want to have sex

I masturbate quite a lot and constantly feel horny (a lot more lately since I feel like I've been alone far too long and everyone else is out there in relationships, etc, especially my friends.) But when it comes to actual sex, with a person, I don't seem to want it...Like when I kiss people all of these feelings seem to go away, and I end up not wanting to be with them. When they try things with me, I never feel turned on. In the past I've just done it for the sake of it, as I never dared to say no, but I've never wanted to.

This is so confusing because when I'm masturbating I always fantasise about sex and even read stories to get a clear picture. I also get pleasure from masturbating and have sexual dreams. (Sorry if TMI, just wanted to show that I surely can't be asexual.)

I have a few guys that I know I could have sex with (as I talked to a few of them, and one is a friend, and would they really say no?) But I know that if I actually went for it then I wouldn't feel like I wanted it...I really don't know what's wrong with me, and why I don't want it.

I'm not really sure what to do...I'm actually so frustrated at the moment.

Yeah, and I'm a girl btw!

When they try things with me, I never feel turned on. In the past I've just done it for the sake of it, as I never dared to say no, but I've never wanted to.

Maybe...guys are the problem?

Have you tried experimenting with girls?

Maybe you want to be with someone that you have an emotional connection with?

Yes, it could be that you like ladies, or that you want someone with whom you are in a meaningful relationship.

I think is normal if u been alone for a long time with no sexual contact with anyone, and u been just masturbating is harder to get aroused when u r with someone because u r not accustomed in being with another person .. i think u should find someone u like feel good with and of course sexual atractted to him/her and start from there in the beginning will be hard but after everything will came back to normal.
Just when u find that person dont masturbate anymore so when u r with him/her u will feel more aroused ..

Afaic, this is the only point you made in your OP that is worrying. Perhaps this isn't the way you meant it, but you make it sound like you went along with someone's sexual advances because you were scared of the consequences of not doing so. That suggests that what took place was somewhere on the spectrum of being coerced into sexual activity.

It's not good if it was a case of you feeling you should (you 'coercing' yourself, so to speak). You should respect your own desires and say no if you don't want to, not do it because you feel it's "the thing to do". If it was at the other end of the spectrum (feeling physically threatened), it's rather scary. I seriously hope that wasn't ever the case in any of the episodes you're referring to.

Definitely sounds like an emotional issue.

I've had similar frustrations. But don't force it or fake it, that's the worst thing to do.

I'm not trying to being negative here, but you have to ask yourself how happy really are those people you see in relationships that you're jealous of? I'm not saying they're all miserable and faking their happiness, but my point is that you just don't really know what it's like for them. If you have to fake it to feel like you're feeling the same, you're no better off (in fact you'd probably be worse off) than you are now.

I don't know if that makes any sense. it may be that I have no idea what I'm talking about, or I do but I'm just not articulating it very well.

What do you mean? Like it's about an emotional attachment to someone?

Yes, particularly since you just said you don't see yourself ever being emotionally close with someone.

That plus your original issue suggests that you are afraid to let someone close enough to actually be intimate with them. Hence 'closing up'.

I masturbate quite a lot and constantly feel horny (a lot more lately since I feel like I've been alone far too long and everyone else is out there in relationships, etc, especially my friends.) But when it comes to actual sex, with a person, I don't seem to want it...Like when I kiss people all of these feelings seem to go away, and I end up not wanting to be with them. When they try things with me, I never feel turned on. In the past I've just done it for the sake of it, as I never dared to say no, but I've never wanted to.

This is so confusing because when I'm masturbating I always fantasise about sex and even read stories to get a clear picture. I also get pleasure from masturbating and have sexual dreams. (Sorry if TMI, just wanted to show that I surely can't be asexual.)

I have a few guys that I know I could have sex with (as I talked to a few of them, and one is a friend, and would they really say no?) But I know that if I actually went for it then I wouldn't feel like I wanted it...I really don't know what's wrong with me, and why I don't want it.

I'm not really sure what to do...I'm actually so frustrated at the moment.

Yeah, and I'm a girl btw!

I jest not; prayer.

Honestly, honestly?

I masturbate quite a lot and constantly feel horny (a lot more lately since I feel like I've been alone far too long and everyone else is out there in relationships, etc, especially my friends.) But when it comes to actual sex, with a person, I don't seem to want it...Like when I kiss people all of these feelings seem to go away, and I end up not wanting to be with them. When they try things with me, I never feel turned on. In the past I've just done it for the sake of it, as I never dared to say no, but I've never wanted to.

This is so confusing because when I'm masturbating I always fantasise about sex and even read stories to get a clear picture. I also get pleasure from masturbating and have sexual dreams. (Sorry if TMI, just wanted to show that I surely can't be asexual.)

I have a few guys that I know I could have sex with (as I talked to a few of them, and one is a friend, and would they really say no?) But I know that if I actually went for it then I wouldn't feel like I wanted it...I really don't know what's wrong with me, and why I don't want it.

I'm not really sure what to do...I'm actually so frustrated at the moment.

Yeah, and I'm a girl btw!