Attention seeking friend

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Reply 20

daviem

Original post by RadDadRedemption

Did not read lol

what?

Reply 21

angelcake123

OP ask her why she is lying/attention seeking. She will deny it but stand your ground. Say you cant put up with it until she tells the truth. When we lie, we choose to be selfish to protect ourselves. Constant liars cant be trusted.

Why she always lyingggg

Reply 22

daviem

Original post by RadDadRedemption

Did not read lol

Oh, are you saying my statement was too long? Sorry about that haha, I'll bullet point basics;

.Only friend is an attention seeker (I think, I may be wrong)
.I can't stand attention seeking.
.Feel very lonely without friend(s)
.Reaching the end of my tether

Reply 23

daviem

Original post by angelcake123

Haha, thank you for the singing :smile:

She isn't all bad though, she's very nice in other ways. Maybe I should just put up with t? Beggars can't be choosers after all.

Reply 24

daviem

Original post by angelcake123

I'm just nervous that if I ask I'll basically be calling her a liar and it'll come across as super offensive.

Reply 25

angelcake123

Original post by daviem

Haha, thank you for the singing :smile:

She isn't all bad though, she's very nice in other ways. Maybe I should just put up with t? Beggars can't be choosers after all.

Anytime hehe :smile:

Yeah i know she isnt all bad, but it seems to really bother you. The sooner you handle it the better. Otherwise, at one point it may drive you crazy :redface:

Original post by daviem

I'm just nervous that if I ask I'll basically be calling her a liar and it'll come across as super offensive.

Aww well maybe the next time she does something attention seeking, ask her what was that all about? Or you could joke and say "wow you attention seeker" and then she'll laugh and then you say "no I'm being serious"

Reply 26

daviem

Original post by angelcake123

Anytime hehe :smile:

Yeah i know she isnt all bad, but it seems to really bother you. The sooner you handle it the better. Otherwise, at one point it may drive you crazy :redface:

Yeah, I reckon I should. You don't want to have a relationship with someone you can't trust. Better not do it in front of our teacher though, she loves her so much I'll probably be given detention for bullying her haha.

Reply 27

Smonnie

Original post by daviem

Clearly you think your'e funny by writing nonsense, but it's a bit annoying in all honesty, I'm really unsure about the situation with my friend, so if you have any real advice then please leave it.

Keep your mouth shut for now since she's your only friend, but try to widen your friendship group.

Reply 28

daviem

Original post by Smonnie

Keep your mouth shut for now since she's your only friend, but try to widen your friendship group.

Iv'e really tried to make new friends, I literally don't think there's anyone left who I haven't tried to engage with so I feel like making new friends is not an option, at least not for now. I think maybe I should approach the subject, without insulting her if possible. I should at least give her a chance to change before severing ties I think, she doesn't know it annoys me you see.

Reply 29

Smonnie

Original post by daviem

You run the risk of ending up with no company though - because she will just deny it and be dramatic!

Reply 30

daviem

Original post by Smonnie

You run the risk of ending up with no company though - because she will just deny it and be dramatic!

I'm quite proud haha, I think I'd rather not have any friends and not let this problem simmer any longer.

Reply 31

Smonnie

Original post by daviem

I'm quite proud haha, I think I'd rather not have any friends and not let this problem simmer any longer.

I think it will make you more unhappy, at least in the short term.

If I were you, I would try to involve myself more with other acquaintances. So do little things like sitting with other people at lunch, asking to tag along on shopping trips or cinema visits or whatever it might be, do work with people in the library.

At first, it might feel to you like you're 'forcing' your company on them. But the nice ones won't mind, and will get used to you being around.

Always have a back up plan! It's not nice to feel completely alone all the time - even if you don't mind solitude some of the time.

Reply 32

daviem

Original post by Smonnie

yeah I think I'll try that, nothing to lose! Thanks.

Reply 33

Smonnie

Original post by daviem

yeah I think I'll try that, nothing to lose! Thanks.

The only reason I say this, is because if you alienate this best friend, however annoying she is, you will find yourself feeling at a real loose end during free time, and wishing for any company, however irritating!

Reply 34

DanielleT192

Original post by daviem

The problem is I don't know how to talk to her about it without offending her. I really don't. Also, with the making new friends thing, I'm just not sure it's realistic, I feel like I've exhausted all my options haha. I reckon talking to her might be the best thing though because I really don't know how much more I can stand, so would you have any more advice on how to go about that?

Well I wouldn't outright say how you actually feel, i.e. you think that she's doing everything for attention. Although you'd be telling her how you feel, it might hurt her hearing that and thus might affect your feiendship.

Maybe say you've noticed that things are getting worse, like with the panic attacks and also her constantly putting herself down and ask her what's wrong and if there's anything you could help her with? That might open things up for you.

Friends are also hard to make, it's not easy. Even start small chat with a few people in class.

Reply 35

Conkerr

Talk to her. Tell her how you feel and see how she replies. If she doesn't want to change and it bothers you, move on.

Reply 36

MaddieJensen

Original post by daviem

Hmmm, the problem is though, I really, really struggle to make friends. I get bullied quite a lot (not so more now as before, however), and prior to sort of the past year and a half, I've never really had one friend, people just never seemed to like me much. I found that makes me feel really lonely, so I'm sort of feeling in the 'beggars can't be choosers' situation.

I was also bullied when I was younger, but that doesn't mean you'll never have any more friends apart from that one person! You never know what might happen if you at least try!!