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Is physical attraction important to you?

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Reply 20

ivy.98

Original post by Illiberal Liberal

couldn't have put it better myself tbh :h:

great minds think alike :five:

Reply 21

Illiberal Liberal

Original post by ivy.98

great minds think alike :five:

indeed they do :u:

Reply 22

Katty3

Original post by Cherry82

Asexual? Awesome x

Yep.

Not awesome. Ace.

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Reply 23

Goaded

It's v important to me

Reply 24

Serine Soul

The more I think about it, the more I realise no....

Just be slim lol

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Reply 25

JoshDawg

*insert people talking about how it isn't, when in reality they really would want someone who would actually be nice to look at*

Reply 26

Biryani007

Of course you need to be physically attracted to them...saying that though, great character adds to how attractive they are to you and makes them more physically appealing...

Reply 27

donutellme

Attraction is a prerequisite to a relationship.

Reply 28

Katty3

Original post by donutellme

Attraction is a prerequisite to a relationship.

Not really.

I don't feel sexual attraction but I do want to have a romantic relationship. I base whether or not I want a relationship with someone on whether or not we click.

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Reply 29

donutellme

Original post by Katty3

Not really.

I don't feel sexual attraction but I do want to have a romantic relationship. I base whether or not I want a relationship with someone on whether or not we click.

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There must be some initial attraction. Not necessarily sexual. At least something physical though.

Reply 30

Katty3

Original post by donutellme

There must be some initial attraction. Not necessarily sexual. At least something physical though.

Physical attraction is sexual attraction. Either way I don't feel it.

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Reply 31

username155270

It depends on what stages in life you're in, when you get older you have to have more then looks... A good job, a good head on your shoulder, a good influence, provider. When I was younger I liked bad boys that were hot.

Reply 32

math42

Meh. I think for me physical attraction is nurtured a lot by romantic feelings. I think there is probably a "limit", but the bar isn't very high, partly because I don't take great care of myself so can't expect much (I'm not overweight or anything, just lacking exercise and have poor diet which probably doesn't help me..) but honestly I don't think it's a calculated decision made on that basis, more of a gut feeling.

Reply 33

Emily.97

It is important to me, yes

Reply 34

CLPsych

Original post by Cherry82

Guys do you think it's possible to force/ change how you see someone physically? A guy told me I should try and make myself physically attracted to him, that it will come later after some time but I told him I think it's impossible. I've tried and nothing changed. However there are couples where a partner has admitted originally they were not physically attracted to their spouse yet after months/years it changed. I realised later how complex and complicated attraction is.

I think whether you're physically attracted to someone CAN change, but I don't think you can force it to. A sexual attraction to someone can develop, it can take you by surprise, and I do think personality and character has a lot to do with that (I also put a lot of stock in the idea that if you like someone, they'll appear more attractive to you, and if you don't think someone is a nice person, they can start to seem less attractive to you even if they still objectively look the same).

There's an important distinction though, between developing an attraction to someone organically and trying to make it happen. I don't think you can try to cultivate an attraction to someone if you just don't feel it. We can't always explain what makes us attracted to people, but we sure as hell know whether we are or not.