I gave her my number. Did I do the right thing?

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Hows it going with 2nd girl?

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Haven't seen her since that day I asked for her number. I'm not bothered about her anymore. I saw the 1st girl today though, I'm just about to post what happened..

Reply 161

believeteam22

I met the 1st girl today at work. And for once, she was working on my floor! (About time).
When she saw she said hi and smiled and I did the same. But that was it. She didn't say anything else, she was quiet, and I just felt a little awkward for the 1st hour. Then I thought, I don't like this, and I just started a conversation with her and it just went from there. That really helped because from that point on, we talked whenever we got the chance. So I am glad that there is now no awkwardness or anything of the sort.
Anyway, so yeah that was that. Another thing, I don't want to talk to her only at work..do you guys think I should send her a request on fb or is that a bad idea? I'm just looking to be friends with this girl only nothing more..

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Original post by believeteam22

Not before asking if she has Facebook in conversation. Ask her face to face if you can add her on there. Don't search for her and add her, you might be taking two steps back with this approach.

Reply 164

believeteam22

Original post by phunky_fresh

Not before asking if she has Facebook in conversation. Ask her face to face if you can add her on there. Don't search for her and add her, you might be taking two steps back with this approach.

Yeah ok. Good point. I will do that the next time I see her.

Reply 165

chikane

Original post by believeteam22

Yeah ok. Good point. I will do that the next time I see her.

What if you don't get a chance to speak to her next time? don't see the problem in adding her lots of people just add people.
I should have read properly thought the first girl didnt want to give her number. Give her an add on fb.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 166

believeteam22

Original post by Foo.mp3

Do you even believe this yourself? Lower your horizons, work on your game, socialisation, seduction, then start chirpsing girls at random, not until

Yeah I think so. I mean, I think she is not interested in me. But I still want to be her friend. I won't have a problem with that.

Do you have any tips?

Reply 167

believeteam22

Original post by chikane

True. I am only working 1 day a week now and it's unlikely she will work the same day as me..so yeah it may be a while til I see her again.

Oh, yeah the 1st girl (this girl) was the one who I gave my number to on a piece of paper. No response.

The 2nd girl was the girl who I asked her number, who said no. (Don't care about her anymore)

So yeah, I'm not sure now. U say add her, but @phunky_fresh says it's not a good idea and that I should ask her first..so stuck in 2 minds..

Reply 168

chikane

Original post by believeteam22

If you know you will see her then ask if not then add her you might be able to find out more about her and be able to strike up a convo. Do what you think is right if you add her send her a message asking hope she dont mind the add.

Reply 169

believeteam22

Original post by Foo.mp3

See the subtext that's screaming at me is: "don't really want to be (just) her friend but will settle for that over nothing"

Already gave you them amigo. Trust me, you're better off focusing on your development (elsewhere) :danceboy:

To be honest, I have a crush on her yeah but it's nothing major. The good thing though is that I am not getting attached to her or anything of the sort (a mistake I made with the girl from uni). But I could still be her friend.

But yeah I am looking around again. :/

Reply 170

believeteam22

Original post by chikane

I probably will see her again possibly, but just have no idea when. I need to think..I don't want to make things awkward again..

To be honest..if I sent her a request and she declined it, I would be very annoyed and p*ssed off and then I would not want to see her face again lol

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 171

believeteam22

Original post by Foo.mp3

You'll get attached, and it will become something major, if she accepts you as a friend and is naive enough to let you get close

Save the both of you the discomfort that will inevitably ensue, trust me on this

I don't think I will. (Having learned from previous experience) And I definitely don't like her nowhere as much as I like the girl from uni. But anyway, for now, I'm not bothered, too busy with uni work.

Reply 172

Anonymous #3

You really sold yourself with the number exchange ;-)

Did you get any signs she liked you ? ..at least some great eye contact ?

Reply 173

believeteam22

Original post by Anonymous

You really sold yourself with the number exchange ;-)

Did you get any signs she liked you ? ..at least some great eye contact ?

Which girl are you referring to? :smile:

Reply 174

scrawlx101

Original post by believeteam22

Which girl are you referring to? :smile:

honeslty mate take a break from chasing women..you dont care about girl 2(better yet im sure she laughed because she thought you werent serious)and girl one gave you 0 response....just take a break...You dont NEED a girlfriend...

Reply 175

Tiger Rag

You come across as desperate, which s so off putting. They know that; so won't give you their number.

Reply 176

believeteam22

Original post by scrawlx101

I just started and you wan't me to take a break already?
As for girl 2, I am just annoyed the way she reacted. I was serious, I asked for her number as I thought there was something there. But she said no, laughed and just walked away, and that just made me angry..I didn't like the way she just thought it funny. Anyway, like I said, I am not bothered about her anymore (I think).

As for girl 1, there was no response from her after I gave her my number. And the 2 weeks after that we were not able to talk, only a quick hi in passing so I wasn't sure what was what. But just a few days ago, she was working on my floor and after a brief awkward first 1hr, I broke the silence and started talking to her and the awkwardness is gone and I am comfortable around her again. But I don't think she is interested in me so I have pretty much given up on that.

I don't need a girlfriend yes, but I do want to find one. :smile:

But atm I am pretty busy with uni so no time..

Reply 177

believeteam22

Original post by Tiger Rag

You come across as desperate, which s so off putting. They know that; so won't give you their number.

How did I come across as desperate? Could you tell me your input, what exactly did I do wrong and what should I have done differently? Don't want to make the same mistake again..