Girlfriend going to magaluf

Thanks for your input guys, would be happy to hear more if anybody else wants to include their opinion!

I think I'm going to lay the cards down on the table and just say it's me or the holiday.I don't worry about her going to clubs etc anymore it's just the thought of magaluf where my instinct is telling me "no, bad news" I really do love this girl and want to do everything I can to make it work and I feel that without the holiday they would be!

Is it wrong to give her this ultimatum?

Bit of background here first, I genuinely feel like I have found the one, a year and a half since I first started seeing her I still get butterflies when I see her face, she means the world to me. The only problem has been her drinking, when she gets drunk she is out of control with no sense of safety or what she's doing, and she is quite a naturally flirty person which has caused arguments in the past and eroded away part of my trust, she got accused of cheating on me and I decided to believe her that she didn't, which was hard for me to do and still annoys me to this day with the thought of "maybe she did" although Im 99.9% sure she didn't. Our relationship reached a crossroads about 4 months ago and she promised it would change in terms of her drunken behaviour and I told her about me not being as trusting, both of us have worked hard at our relationship and seems we're looking good.

However she is now wanting to goto magaluf with just her and 3 girls, 2 of which are sluts for 10 days without me. I wanted her to be able to go away and enjoy herself on a girls holiday but going somewhere like magaluf with only the 3 friends (all her other friend want to goto music festivals which aren't really her scene) is a thought that is driving me insane, we've argued about it and she is standing pretty firm that she wants to go there. I thought right I'll just have to get used to the idea but now I'm realising that despite how much I love her I dont think that I can genuinely cope with her going there under the circumstances and I feel strongly that it will be the ruination of a relationship which I want to last, we both love each other but I really don't think I can put up with her going to magaluf and feel like saying it's either me or the holiday, especially after me just regaining my trust for her fully, any advice?

If you don't trust her, this isn't going to work long term,
I understand where you're coming from, but I also think neither of you should have to make such big sacrifices to jeep the other happy :/
If you're sure it worth it, talk to her very seriously, and make sure she fully understands your concerns

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You are going to have to give her, her freedom to do as she pleases, what you can do is speak with the other girl who isn't a slut who you can assume is more moral and possibly more sensible to watch over your girlfriend and hopefully if something happens with your girlfriend and some strange randomer then she can step in and stop it..

What you need to do is subtlely get in to her head the idea of drunkenly ****ing some greasy disease ridden stranger so when she talks about the clubs then gently joke about the STDs and how loose the men can get and reinforce that by reminding how great she has it with you, and these things will be in her head before she is out there. You can always mention a lads holiday to see if she gets the same concerns that you do about her but don't make it obvious, say all this talk is making you think it might be a good idea for you aswell.

Most brutally, you have to tell her that if she comes home disease ridden and pregnant that you are gone.. because that is not the person you are in a relationship with.

You can keep present during the holiday by sending a few texts, liking and commenting on her statuses and photos on facebook, twitter and instagram and if she is there for a week then two phone calls should do and keep a note in front of you when you do call her to remind yourself to keep calm and not so anything stupid and reinforce that you think highly of her and she should keep to her standard.

Good god NO. Dont do ANY OF THIS OP

*Shagaluf

Thanks for your input guys, would be happy to hear more if anybody else wants to include their opinion!

I think I'm going to lay the cards down on the table and just say it's me or the holiday.I don't worry about her going to clubs etc anymore it's just the thought of magaluf where my instinct is telling me "no, bad news" I really do love this girl and want to do everything I can to make it work and I feel that without the holiday they would be!

Is it wrong to give her this ultimatum?

If you don't trust her, this isn't going to work long term,
I understand where you're coming from, but I also think neither of you should have to make such big sacrifices to jeep the other happy :/
If you're sure it worth it, talk to her very seriously, and make sure she fully understands your concerns

Posted from TSR Mobile

What would you reckon doing then Dr. Phil..

There are so many insecure people on here. If she's going to cheat then she will, be that in magaluf or at home. And you lost any sympathy from me when you called her friends sluts.
It's the fact you don't trust her that's the problem, not Magaluf.