I'm a girl. I like girls. I'm a "Muslim" and Asian. What to do?

It's 'you', not 'u'.

*cue muslims saying "astaghfirullah"*

Yep, you read the title right.

I like girls. I like their hair. I like the way they smell. I like that they're soft. I like that I can connect with a girl far more intensely and quicker than I do with a male.

I've always liked girls. It's always been like that. When I was a child, I'd never see the hype with boys when my female friends would be getting boyfriends. Even through my teenage years, I'd never have crushes on boys - on girls though, YESSSSssSss.

Right, enough about girls. Let's move onto me, as a person.

I am a female adult who was born and raised in an Asian AND Muslim household. Both identities are notorious to shun out anyone part of the LGBT community.
I'm not a practicing Muslim. I don't believe in a God. Yet I don't drink nor eat pork. I even eat Halal food. Maybe there's a part of me that's super scared that there is a God. Anyways that's another forum topic.

I don't believe in a God because why would he/she make me the way I am? Why would he bring me into a world where people will reject me and think I'm disgusting for merely just loving another human being?

And for those who think "you chose to like girls". Um, no. I didn't wake up one day and think "Hmmmmm YESSSS I'm going to go against my religion and my ethnic background and fancy girls. Just for the #baNTZ!!!". Oh no no no. I didn't chose to be like this.

I;ve never been in a relationship with a girl, not been with one sexually. I lust after both these things. But I have a feeling that I'll never be able to do so. Even if an opportunity came, I would feel guilty.

Being from an Asian background and Muslim background, marriage is a big deal. I'm in my 20s. I'm finishing up my studies. This is the prime time for girls and boys of my background(s) to get married. Marriage is such an important thing in Islam and in all South Asian communities.

So marriage is traditionally between a man and woman (god said adam and eve not adam and steve, am i right ?!?!), and guess what, I don't like men in that way. I've tried to invest myself with a man. I can't connect with a man on an emotional level. The though of their genitals does not make me aroused. How on earth can I get married to one? If I don't get married, I'm a failure. If I come out, I will be shunned by my family and the Asian and Islamic community.

Sooooo, I'm pretty much f*cked. Let's be real, I'm not coming out any time soon to my family or friends.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to get married. I don't want to ask "God" for forgiveness. I simply do not believe in him/her.

If you're a Muslim and reading this, do not pray for me. Don't make dua for me. There's nothing wrong with me.

'do that thing' lol.
You can move out sure. Live as most white british people do. However, you've been brought up so differently you likely won't fit in.

What about the OP's upbringing would not allow her to fit in? please elaborate.

I'm an indian male that lives with a Filipino woman and a Goan man, yet we're all surviving and living happily at 21 years of age with no problems. Have I just proved your 'not fitting in' rule completely incorrect?

There's always a what if. Say I said I had the original Qur'an. Then plant.. Clown may ask what if it isn't.
At some point you do have to take a leap of faith.
They have been recorded and kept in many books. There are some that are weaker than others, however I'm not learnt enough to tell you which ones are, and are not authentic.

So you are admitting that you don't actually know if the Qur'an has been changed or not because you don't have the original.

I believe it hasn't. Millions people have memorized the Qur'an since it first came down. I know two of my friends that know it from the first letter to the last. They read each chapter EXACTLY the same. But obviously this still doesn't prove that it hasn't been changed in the past.

However, you can purchase ANY Qur'an in the world and it will be identical. If that doesn't speak volumes I don't know what does..

However, you can purchase ANY Qur'an in the world and it will be identical. If that doesn't speak volumes I don't know what does..

How do all current Qur'ans being identical (which by the way, they aren't. There are slight variations in wording from version to version) prove that the original was the same? It is a non-sequitur.

Here are 12 documented textual variants of Surah 2 verse 106 in the Quran. Keep in mind this is one single verse.

These are very small differences

*cue muslims saying "astaghfirullah"*

Yep, you read the title right.

I like girls. I like their hair. I like the way they smell. I like that they're soft. I like that I can connect with a girl far more intensely and quicker than I do with a male.

I've always liked girls. It's always been like that. When I was a child, I'd never see the hype with boys when my female friends would be getting boyfriends. Even through my teenage years, I'd never have crushes on boys - on girls though, YESSSSssSss.

Right, enough about girls. Let's move onto me, as a person.

I am a female adult who was born and raised in an Asian AND Muslim household. Both identities are notorious to shun out anyone part of the LGBT community.
I'm not a practicing Muslim. I don't believe in a God. Yet I don't drink nor eat pork. I even eat Halal food. Maybe there's a part of me that's super scared that there is a God. Anyways that's another forum topic.

I don't believe in a God because why would he/she make me the way I am? Why would he bring me into a world where people will reject me and think I'm disgusting for merely just loving another human being?

And for those who think "you chose to like girls". Um, no. I didn't wake up one day and think "Hmmmmm YESSSS I'm going to go against my religion and my ethnic background and fancy girls. Just for the #baNTZ!!!". Oh no no no. I didn't chose to be like this.

I;ve never been in a relationship with a girl, not been with one sexually. I lust after both these things. But I have a feeling that I'll never be able to do so. Even if an opportunity came, I would feel guilty.

Being from an Asian background and Muslim background, marriage is a big deal. I'm in my 20s. I'm finishing up my studies. This is the prime time for girls and boys of my background(s) to get married. Marriage is such an important thing in Islam and in all South Asian communities.

So marriage is traditionally between a man and woman (god said adam and eve not adam and steve, am i right ?!?!), and guess what, I don't like men in that way. I've tried to invest myself with a man. I can't connect with a man on an emotional level. The though of their genitals does not make me aroused. How on earth can I get married to one? If I don't get married, I'm a failure. If I come out, I will be shunned by my family and the Asian and Islamic community.

Sooooo, I'm pretty much f*cked. Let's be real, I'm not coming out any time soon to my family or friends.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to get married. I don't want to ask "God" for forgiveness. I simply do not believe in him/her.

If you're a Muslim and reading this, do not pray for me. Don't make dua for me. There's nothing wrong with me.

*cue muslims saying "astaghfirullah"*

Yep, you read the title right.

I like girls. I like their hair. I like the way they smell. I like that they're soft. I like that I can connect with a girl far more intensely and quicker than I do with a male.

I've always liked girls. It's always been like that. When I was a child, I'd never see the hype with boys when my female friends would be getting boyfriends. Even through my teenage years, I'd never have crushes on boys - on girls though, YESSSSssSss.

Right, enough about girls. Let's move onto me, as a person.

I am a female adult who was born and raised in an Asian AND Muslim household. Both identities are notorious to shun out anyone part of the LGBT community.
I'm not a practicing Muslim. I don't believe in a God. Yet I don't drink nor eat pork. I even eat Halal food. Maybe there's a part of me that's super scared that there is a God. Anyways that's another forum topic.

I don't believe in a God because why would he/she make me the way I am? Why would he bring me into a world where people will reject me and think I'm disgusting for merely just loving another human being?

And for those who think "you chose to like girls". Um, no. I didn't wake up one day and think "Hmmmmm YESSSS I'm going to go against my religion and my ethnic background and fancy girls. Just for the #baNTZ!!!". Oh no no no. I didn't chose to be like this.

I;ve never been in a relationship with a girl, not been with one sexually. I lust after both these things. But I have a feeling that I'll never be able to do so. Even if an opportunity came, I would feel guilty.

Being from an Asian background and Muslim background, marriage is a big deal. I'm in my 20s. I'm finishing up my studies. This is the prime time for girls and boys of my background(s) to get married. Marriage is such an important thing in Islam and in all South Asian communities.

So marriage is traditionally between a man and woman (god said adam and eve not adam and steve, am i right ?!?!), and guess what, I don't like men in that way. I've tried to invest myself with a man. I can't connect with a man on an emotional level. The though of their genitals does not make me aroused. How on earth can I get married to one? If I don't get married, I'm a failure. If I come out, I will be shunned by my family and the Asian and Islamic community.

Sooooo, I'm pretty much f*cked. Let's be real, I'm not coming out any time soon to my family or friends.

I don't know what to do. I don't want to get married. I don't want to ask "God" for forgiveness. I simply do not believe in him/her.

If you're a Muslim and reading this, do not pray for me. Don't make dua for me. There's nothing wrong with me.

I'm in the same situation :/ I'm 18 and I'm a gay Asian girl I understand and it's so difficult. But I don't believe in God (of course my parents don't know this) but it makes things a lot better for me personally. I think the worst thing is the whole society we live in and is traditional aspects; because of this we sort of grow up thinking there is something wrong with us and it's completely wrong. I came out to my best friend a few months ago and she a firm believer in God and it was absolutely horrible; she just sort of started crying and told me how I'm making my way to hell and not to mention how she kept asking who had "turned me" gay. I think these sort of reactions are the worst; and we're gonna have to expect more of these.

Whether my parents stay in touch with me or not; I'm going to get married to a girl and stay happy and live a life where I can feel free and no longer restricted; because if I don't do this for myself I'm just going to live a life in agony and I really don't deserve that. Of course they're going to be upset, my mother is really homophobic, and a few of my cousins have started hinting at me, but to be honest, just do things for yourself for once. I know it doesn't seem like the best answer, but honestly if you get married to a man you're really going to regret it, because you also deserve to be happy .

I know the marriage thing is going to come up with me soon lol; so I'm waiting to start uni and then I'm just going to run away

Feel free to dm me if you want to speak further.

Honestly, just do what you want to do; don't ask Asian people for advice because honesty a majority are traditional minded. Just don't date an Asian girl if you do come out though; they're annoying, chalak and will most likely still get married even if they're gay.

Asian girls scare me (myself included)

Deepika Padukune is fire tho.

Lol yeah they are scary. But I also find them a lot difficult to talk to in terms of being gay; they just sort of look at you weird and pretend they won't judge when they do. I have a deep hatred for Asian girls; mostly because at my college some girls have found it funny to shout "dyke" at me whilst walking past and snigger; so I've sort of become some sort of freakish celebrity .

I hope all goes well for you; and if you can; if there is anyone that you deeply trust, try coming out to them, maybe it will make things much easier for you. It would be a great step to take only if you feel you can trust someone with that. I hope you get to be happy one day; but please don't let our backwards society or family stop you from being who you are and what life you want to have .