Indians, Pakistanis and Bengalis - would you marry one another?

would you agree that the two most taboo groups for indian parents are muslims and black people?


i have found a liberal one tho so I'm lucky, but the majority of 'desi' parents be crazy

I'm pakistani. I totally agree, I think a lot of brown parents chill out a lot as they grow up in the West and see the real world. Not completely chill but big difference! Like, I always assumed they'd want to do the typical arranged marriage for me and pakistani only, but now that my cousins and I are all marriage age, they allow us to date to find someone. They'd prefer desi but I could bring home a non-desi muslim guy and they'll work with it. So weird, I did NOT expect that a decade ago lol.

"really academic"

Nice to hear that people are quite keen on academia as opposed to just getting a degree and doing random stuff for the rest of your life

yes this are the major taboo, though i have actually got two friends going out with black guys , not sure where the parents stand on it.
the other concern your parent smay have have is the other family, becuase also though may seem moderate and modern thinking, this can change when it comes to wedding and building a family.

I'm a Bengali Muslim and I honestly don't care if I get married to anyone of any race. It's just that my parents are going to have a problem about it, especially them being 1st generation British Muslim.

Hehe, aiming for that Nobel Prize

Nah, I just generally like the idea of staying in academia and doing some research or something I might go into secondary teaching at the very end of my career though

I'll have quite a bit of valuable experience to teach with

Raj Patel checking in...

Culturally we're all very similar, so I could probably convince my parents to let me if I really wanted to. I don't think that a lot of Asian girls in particular realise that there's a good reason why a lot of parents don't want their children marrying into a completely different culture. If you were to marry an Afghan, for example - you would most likely be expected to learn the language, cuisine, traditions etc. I've seen this happen to a lot of Desi girls - it's sad to see that they end up neglecting their own culture just to embrace their husband's. And, sorry to generalise, but I think it's true that in mixed race relationships (especially between Muslims) the husband expects the wife to embrace his country's traditions etc but it's very unlikely he'll do the same for her.
With Indians and Bengalis though, I wouldn't really see this happening, since we have a lot of the same cuisines and traditions and our languages are similar.

Two women in my extended family married Hindu men (they've also had kids) and they didn't have to convert to Islam (then again, my mum's mum's family is very liberal)

I wouldn't mind, but my parents would probably hunt me and never let me see the light of day again if I did marry anyone of a different background.

Two women in my extended family married Hindu men (they've also had kids) and they didn't have to convert to Islam (then again, my mum's mum's family is very liberal)

I am an Indian who was born in South India(Kerala), i live in the Uk now but my parents will still not let me marry anyone else other than a girl with a similar background to me due to religions and cultural reasons.

I think it's fair to say that these three backgrounds are fairly similar with subtle differences. These differences may be the language and religion.

However, seeing as they all were one at one point in history, there are common traits that all these backgrounds have.

Say if you were Indian, would you ever consider marrying a Pakistani or Bengali? (And vice versa).

What would your family think?

If your answer is no, why?

I'm genuinely curious about this.

I am a Pakistani but want to marry arabs .
Sorry Pakistani/Indian/Bengali girls