muslim brothers help me :)

You don't have to be religious to wear a hijab.

You need to learn to believe in the goodness and the decency of other people - Muslims included

If you don't want to date someone, just don't give them a reason to with like you in the first place or if they already do , don't give them any opportunity to make advances towards you.

In all fairness, he could just want to be your friend. So what if he looks at you or makes eye contact, people's eyes wander. He could just be a good person and just wants you to do well. Is that so bad? If he was a girl , you wouldn't find any of these actions to be of any concern.

In western culture, male and female friendships are extremely common without there being an alterior motive ( them fancying you or any of the plethora of emotions ). In any culture is perfectly OK to be a friend with someone of the opposite sex without them having feelings for each other regardless of strict Islamic traditions of segregation.

The mind only sees what it wants to see. Hence, you're at that age where you'd find the premise of a relationship, outside of your family but at an equally emotional stand point, intriguing, therefore you are unintentionally " on the look of for a potential mate (sexual and companionship) " but because religion you are unable to explore it and extrapolating your "man-dar" and constantly over analyzing actions or males towards you.

Just think nothing of it. Any guy who is nice to you or looks at you doesn't fancy you. Christianity also teaches to treat people how you would like to be treated. It's one of the 10 commandments ( things you should absolutely follow ) which are a part if Islam too. It he treats you nicely and helps you, it's possible he only wants to be treated the same way by the people around him. If "Christian" is your way of implying he's white ( a lot of Muslims do this even if they don't realise it) then please understand that different races have different religions ( the same way a Muslim can be of any colour) or none at all.

If he explicitly says that he likes you, without you trying to trick it out of him ( I know what us females are like ), then there's no real way of knowing his intentions but that doesn't mean you should be paranoid with every little action towards you, like letting you borrow his pen for instance because that how menial his actions are towards you.

The fact is you probably find this whole situation somewhat different and "exciting" in the same way of discovering something new and you're probably bored and sexually frustrated like every other teenager/young adult so you're taking things way out of context and over analyzing things.

Dont do anythin..

Dont commit Zina...



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This doesn't have to be an Islamic issue. Treat it like every other Muslims and Non-Muslim girl treats it. Only you don't date the guy. It's okay for him to have feelings for you and vice versa but it becomes wrong when you act upon those feelings. So avoid acting upon it and don't give him an incentive. If he wishes to pursue a relationship or something, just explain in a nice manner that you don't like him or if you do just explain exactly why Islam prohibits it. If you feel extremely uncomfortable...it doesn't have to be an Islamic issue...you can explain to him that you're not interested. You need to know where to draw the line.
Good Luck Sister

You don't have to be religious to wear a hijab.

Treat it like every non Muslim girl? Ummm since when do most non Muslim girls actively avoid acting on their feelings and getting into relationships ?

Umm hijab is pretty much religious attire. Why would an openly atheist person wear it out of choice ?

To keep their hair dry in the rain, fashion...

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I wear a hijab for islamic reasons that doesn't make anyone religious. I call people religious that follow their religion 100%

You're getting the wrong end of the stick. The question was "why would an openly ATHEIST person wear a hijab?"

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Quite a few of them actually. People are capable of self restraint without a religious agenda you know. Plus if you'd seen what "Muslim" girls as well as "Muslim" guys get up to during freshers week or during uni in general, you would be saying the same thing to them. Never assume something is one sided to your favour. Self restraint isn't a given gift as soon as you enter a religion, it's earnt and can be earnt by anyone. People are as bad as eachother and religion has nothing to do with it.

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Yes, but a normal, non Muslim girl is far less likely to actively avoid getting into a relationship f there's a boy (or girl) who she has feelings for as there's no moral or religious stigma against it, either from family pr community. And this isn't a bad thing at all, people should be free to je in loving consensual relationships without needing to get married just in order to have sex.

Hey I'm a Muslim girl, i'm not religious but I do wear a hijab. At College I'm kinda certain this christian guy fancies me. I don't like him bk.

Signs that makes me think he's crushing:
Glances often
Helps me without asking
Use to stare alot

What can I do to divert thinking?

Why is something only Muslims can give advice on? Christian girls get this all the time from men they arent interested in. Be polite but distant- avoid eye contact- and he will get the message. Remember men are used to getting the brush off. Its a bigger deal for you than him.

I'm atheist....

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Why is something only Muslims can give advice on? Christian girls get this all the time from men they arent interested in. Be polite but distant- avoid eye contact- and he will get the message. Remember men are used to getting the brush off. Its a bigger deal for you than him.

Thats fine. Just that the post asked for help from Muslims...

They wouldn't