Would you allow your 15 year old daughter to have sex in her room?

So someone told me that she used to have sex with her boyfriend at 15 years old while her parents were home. And that sometimes he stayed over. In that moment i tried to imagine my own future daughter and I really really tried to be liberal and open minded and that but I gathered I can not in any ways allow my daughter to have sex in my house. I will probably go kill the boyfriend with a hammer and watch him die. I don't care that I'll go to prison or anything. Would you allow that to happen?

Ohhhh how naive..... I remember speaking to many parents who said such things..... despite knowing they were getting all sexed up in the local park. I remember one christian mother who stated how despite religious beliefs sex should wait until you're older and more mature.... despite her daughter, who also spouted the same rubbish, being the first one in our group at 14 to loose her virginity.

Guess what? 15 year old girls by large think they are much more mature than they actually are... it's why you see many chasing after guys much older... or heaven forbid teachers!

Also at 15 your "child" is definitely not a "child", kids that age used to die for their country and act like adults. Childhood ends around 10-11 for girls and 11-12 for boys on average. By 14 both would of entered adolescence.

I'm sure your view is most likely due to the fact you don't have any 15 year old children..... but calling a 15 year old a child is extremely condescending to any 15 year old....

The main reason many underage teenagers get pregnant is because many parents get too embarrassed or awkward talking to children about safe sex.... thus many children talk amoung themselves.... that's the main reason you still have teenagers who think you can't get pregnant standing up etc.... it's directly the parents fault for not arming their children with knowledge about safe sex.

If you don't talk to your kids about sex and safe sex.... it will most likely be one of their peers.... and I know who I would rather inform them.... the parent!

No I bloody wouldn't. She wouldn't even be allowed boys in her room....

Aren't you like 16?

I completely agree, sex is for adults. I think there is so much more to sex that a 15 year old wouldn't understand, regardless of their maturity level.

Yes, I agree. I think 18 aswell. I don't see why they would want to have sex under 18 when there are better things to worry about.

18

I would be incredibly unhappy if I discovered my 15 year old daughter having sex, and it is something I will not allow. This does not mean, however, I will not teach her sex about (I will tell her that's a significant issue, but I might reserve the safe sex talk until she is at least 16), but I will strongly emphasise that is something I do not agree with and I do not want her doing. After the age of 16, I am unsure; I would like my daughter to not have sex and wait until she is 18, but I would be hypocrite if I forbade her.

You both think over the age of 18 is fine, okay; what do you think of 17 year olds having sex? They can drive and work; they're practically adults, so why can they not have sex? I'm on the fence with this, so I would like to hear what you think.

Nah He'd probably give his daughter condoms at 13 to tell her to be safe and then tell her how proud he is of her..

When has that ever gone wrong

Well school will undermine that. With good reason. She will have a sex drive well before that age. Would you really want her ignorant of stuff like STIs, contraception etc?

There isn't a huge amount of difference between 17 and 18 to be honest. I think that is where maturity comes in, but a "mature 15 year old" doesn't do it for me, I'm afraid.

I guarantee you will look back on yourself as you grow up as being naive and "childish"

You aint automatically this bastian of sensible maturity the moment you turn 16/18/21 and I'm not sure it ever properly happens :-/

Just because 15 yr olds are a still teenagers doesn't mean they are not going to be doing sex things. They will have a sex drive and some of them will get girlfriend/boyfriends. I don;t think it is inherently bad if two 15 years olds were doing sex things. But even if it is it is still goign to happen. May as well happen somewhere safe.

I feel as if I would be encouraging her to have sex, if I teach her about contraception. I forgot to mention STIs... That will be used as a way to discourage her, subtly I'm still only 17 so I don't know if I will still have these views when I'm a parent.

So if she is a mature 17 year old, you would "accept" it?

At 17, if I'm providing for my child, meaning they still live at home and under my roof and they are having sex, I'm not okay with it.

As I said before, I truly believe sex is meant to be between adults (that is my honest opinion, many will disagree), I believe you can have sex when you don't live under a parents roof, when you really are an adult, then go ahead and do as you please. But whilst your still and home and I'm providing for you, sex shouldn't really be at the forefront of your mind.

I don't know why it sounds like it's some sort of militant parenting but now allowing your teenager to have sex. I just want to raise my children so that they make good decisions, when they should be making those decisions. There is nothing wrong with that.