Too early to become exclusive????

I met this girl on tinder and was chatting to her for a while but then the conversation died down and we stopped talking.

I went out one night and bumped into her in the kebab shop at the end - we chatted loads and she said to go back to hers. Neither of us was that drunk and it was not coming back for anything sexual.

Since then, we've gone on 2 proper official dates and sort of hung out/met up about 5 times (usually for most of the day). So I feel I know her pretty well. Stayed round hers about 3-4 times but never had sex with her - made a point not to do it early. Even though we've gone on 2 dates and met up lots of times, this all happened in a very short space of time (about 2 weeks of spending a lot of time together).

Anyway that night a guy I vaguely know came up to her (before she talked to me) and tried it with her. He later added her on facebook and she accepted - i didn't have a problem with that as we hadn't spent a lot of time together by that point.

But now I know he is still messaging her and she is replying. She's also got him on snapchat. Do you think it is time I bring this up and say something?

do you have feelings for her? and does she know??

If you haven't at least kissed her by this point, you're a fool.

you have no say really as your not an item

Hmmm i'm nor really sure if I would go as far as saying I have feelings as of yet. I don't know really :/

No, I think it's time you smash it, and hope that you do enough job to convince her to leave the world of hookups behind (wouldn't bank on it)

The fact you are sharing a bed (are you, you said you stayed round hers) and she still lets other guys flirt like that is a bit of a red flag tbh, she might just be lonely instead of having genuine feelings for you

in my opinion, you can't really question their motives and expect to be exclusive if you can't clarify if you even have feelings for her?

I met this girl on tinder and was chatting to her for a while but then the conversation died down and we stopped talking.

I went out one night and bumped into her in the kebab shop at the end - we chatted loads and she said to go back to hers. Neither of us was that drunk and it was not coming back for anything sexual.

Since then, we've gone on 2 proper official dates and sort of hung out/met up about 5 times (usually for most of the day). So I feel I know her pretty well. Stayed round hers about 3-4 times but never had sex with her - made a point not to do it early. Even though we've gone on 2 dates and met up lots of times, this all happened in a very short space of time (about 2 weeks of spending a lot of time together).

Anyway that night a guy I vaguely know came up to her (before she talked to me) and tried it with her. He later added her on facebook and she accepted - i didn't have a problem with that as we hadn't spent a lot of time together by that point.

But now I know he is still messaging her and she is replying. She's also got him on snapchat. Do you think it is time I bring this up and say something?