Well it looks like the time is almost here.
She kicked off AGAIN last night, this time on facebook and texts about the ex-girlfriend being too afraid to speak to her again because of me messaging the girls gran to pass onto the mother to stop the ex being here all the time, and if that happens she'll never forgive me etc as she can't live without her in her life..the ex-girlfriend was then messaging saying she doesnt want anything to do with my flatmate, but she keeps begging for sex and doesnt take no for an answer so its her fault.
Then flatmate posted to facebook ranting why can't friends keep out of her buisness and dont they think of the consequenses of their actions..then people started to reply, one said why dont you keep things quiet, and she moaned thats too hard when you live with them, so everyone instantly knew it was about me.
She then went on to accuse me of many things, including controlling her life, saying a meme she shared about a guy telling his girl not to drink and go to a party was about me as im the same type of person, that I tried giving her a curfew, that shes not allowed any friends over and not allowed a life, just because I dont have friends to have over. Then she still carried on saying I kick off when she has two or more friends over saying its a house party (umm loud music, drink, and more at 2-3am, when I have work next day, who would not kick off?! Is that actually unreasonable? I said its fine if they kept the noise down). The truth is, she has alienated ALL her other friends, none of whome want anything more to do with her except this ex-girlfriend.
She also claimed on sunday she was asleep, in bed from 10pm, on her own as was tired, and was the one to leave the door open. Even the ex-girlfriend said she wasnt actually there sunday, my flatmate brought TWO guys back to the flat for sex! And then she still kept going on about how the ex-girlfriend is innocent, so how dare I try and ban her from coming to the flat (yet the ones I spoke too and she fell out with last year are still banned?)..
I was going to stay quiet, but had to reply to the claims, so started staying how I never put a curfew on her, or said she can never have friends over etc..all ive ever said is can she please not have parties when im in work next morning, and up till this weekend, had never said noone was welcome!! I also mentioned how she laughed about the message I sent to her gran as she knew about it, and encouraged me to send the 2nd after she had PUNCHED the girl in the face that night..she blamed that on drink of course..
Basically, refuting everything she was saying..funnily enough, she took down the entire post after that..but needless to say we've not spoken again since..basically, bar 30 mins we made up and were chatting tuesday night, ive not spoken too her calm or sober since last thursday!
Tonight, she left her ipad here, unlocked, and with access to facebook messenger. I decided to have a look on it while she was in work, to see if she had been saying anything about me, as I dont trust her anymore. She has been speaking to the guy from friday night who punched the cat, who shes been claiming she hates and would never speak too again, and when he asked to come over for more sex, she said he's banned because I dont like him, but im probably over exaggerating. She could see the blood on the cats nose!!! He then called me a wierdo, saying that I probably want to sleep with her, to which her reply to my horror was yes, I am a wierdo, and apparently others have said that and the thought makes her violently ill, so she wants me to move out, almost asked me last night to go (but didnt), and the guy said kick me out and he'll move in, to which she replied they could turn it into a sex flat with the three of them every single night.
Knowing this, even though she hasnt said to me directly..I dont see how I can continue to live here much longer at all. Some part of me doesnt want to lose the friendship I thought we had, but then if she appears to hate and resent me this much, what choice is there? Is there even a friendship there to salvage, or am I just the meal ticket she keeps around. Its clear she chooses drug addicts and people who do nothing but sleep around. My friend says maybe she's just saying that too him to get him to sleep with her again..
I have next to no other friends. If I move back home, my independence and freedom is over. The couple of friends I do have from work, I couldnt stay out with them anymore due to busses back to my parents village..my life would be practically over..My parents when I lived home before, wouldn't allow any noise after 10pm (so no music, or tv, or pc stuff etc), I had to be back from anywhere by 10pm. They'd check my mail. They'd watch what I did on the pc..
I have social anxiety, so both moving out of home to here was a major thing, but moving back out elsewhere is also another major issue for me, which is stopping me going, and the thought of losing my supposed closest friend over the last 3 years.
I dispise this on-off girlfriend as shes managed to practically ruin yet another friendship of my flatmate, and practically ruin my life while they get to live on and off happily ever after until they catch something.
The cat's would also probably have to suffer with him coming here more, and my flatmate neglecting them as she used too before I come along.