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Girls - what should I suggest for a first date?

I really like this girl at my sixth form and we have been friends for 2 years. I want to pluck up the courage to ask her out face to face, but I don't know what to suggest we do.
Coffee?
Cinema?
A walk?
What would you like to be asked to do?

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I've learned that it should be something that is interesting as an idea but also something that will interest her enough to say yes. Eg. I asked a girl cinema and she was busy, I asked her to a concert and she said yes, find something you both share interest in
Dinner. Can't really talk at the movies.
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Original post by Lord Kitchener
I've learned that it should be something that is interesting as an idea but also something that will interest her enough to say yes. Eg. I asked a girl cinema and she was busy, I asked her to a concert and she said yes, find something you both share interest in


Good advice. +1
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Original post by xobeauty
Dinner. Can't really talk at the movies.


Dinner at a restaurant? Dinner I prepare? (Im quite a good cook... Ish)
It depends on what you're into and what the weather etc is like. If it's nice and sunny I'd recommend a picnic because that's cute, or you can cinema + dinner so that you can sit together and talk not just watch a movie.
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Original post by TheGreatImposter
It depends on what you're into and what the weather etc is like. If it's nice and sunny I'd recommend a picnic because that's cute, or you can cinema + dinner so that you can sit together and talk not just watch a movie.


Good to know. Thanks,
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Original post by Anonymous
I really like this girl at my sixth form and we have been friends for 2 years. I want to pluck up the courage to ask her out face to face, but I don't know what to suggest we do.
Coffee?
Cinema?
A walk?
What would you like to be asked to do?


Coffee I've found can be really good. It's casually but can still be romantic. You can change the length of the date really easily depending on how it goes, since a coffee date could last from 20 minutes to a few hours. Plus, who doesn't like going to a cafe? Even they don't drink coffee, there are other hot drinks they'll like.

Cinema is kinda rubbish for a first date. You can't talk, which you'll want to do to get to know each other in a romantic way. Like even if you've been friends a while, the way you talk to each other is kinda different when dating. I'd only do a movie date with someone I've been dating a while, so I can snuggle up to them.

A walk isn't a bad idea if they like walking. If they're a lazy **** like me, they probably won't like it so much. Depends on whether or not you think they'll enjoy it, knowing what they like.

As said above, it really depends on what you and the other person like. But I understand even if you know them well it's still hard to come up things you'll both like, so here are a few more ideas:
> Go to an arcade.
> Go shopping/into town.
> Stay home and chill, if it feels appropriate.
> Do a sport, like ice skating or bowling.
> Get icecream. Or any food. Food.
Not a girl but thought I'd pitch in :tongue:

As the girl I liked and I shared a few classes I asked her if she wanted to get together and study (it was in the spring so it was warm enough to revise in this really nice local park) and soon enough we went to the park just to hang out without textbooks and voila.
Not quite a date but if that works.. :dontknow:
Original post by Anonymous
I really like this girl at my sixth form and we have been friends for 2 years. I want to pluck up the courage to ask her out face to face, but I don't know what to suggest we do.
Coffee?
Cinema?
A walk?
What would you like to be asked to do?


Tread carefully if its a girl at your sixth form because a wise man once said "Don't eat where you sh1t" in other words if something badly happens i.e relationship fails or either party gets embarrassed it would be awkward seeing each other at sixth form on a daily basis.
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Original post by Anonymous
Dinner at a restaurant? Dinner I prepare? (Im quite a good cook... Ish)


Check they'd like dinner, since I personally wouldn't want to go out to a restaurant. It feels kinda pressure-y for me I guess? But I guess that's not a common way to feel about a dinner date. It's still worth checking, whatever kinda date you choose. Ask them out first, THEN ask them if they'd like to do x or not.
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Original post by Darelz
Coffee I've found can be really good. It's casually but can still be romantic. You can change the length of the date really easily depending on how it goes, since a coffee date could last from 20 minutes to a few hours. Plus, who doesn't like going to a cafe? Even they don't drink coffee, there are other hot drinks they'll like.

Cinema is kinda rubbish for a first date. You can't talk, which you'll want to do to get to know each other in a romantic way. Like even if you've been friends a while, the way you talk to each other is kinda different when dating. I'd only do a movie date with someone I've been dating a while, so I can snuggle up to them.

A walk isn't a bad idea if they like walking. If they're a lazy **** like me, they probably won't like it so much. Depends on whether or not you think they'll enjoy it, knowing what they like.

As said above, it really depends on what you and the other person like. But I understand even if you know them well it's still hard to come up things you'll both like, so here are a few more ideas:
> Go to an arcade.
> Go shopping/into town.
> Stay home and chill, if it feels appropriate.
> Do a sport, like ice skating or bowling.
> Get icecream. Or any food. Food.


A* for that essay hahaha. Really helpful advice - it's appreciated, thanks. :smile:
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Original post by Anonymous
A* for that essay hahaha. Really helpful advice - it's appreciated, thanks. :smile:


XD I get carried away sometimes. I'm glad I could help though!
Original post by Anonymous
Dinner at a restaurant? Dinner I prepare? (Im quite a good cook... Ish)


Do you know if she likes you or are you guys just getting to know eachother?... A dinner at home with candles would be a bomb idea if she likes you, it might me too intimate otherwise.
Another thing that someone told me which is equally important is that if they like you they will find time to go out with you and spend time with you, if they repeatedly say they are busy then they aren't interested, no matter how much you feel otherwise, it's not going to happen.

That being said, you can't rely solely on them liking you and it requires effort to be romantic and do things which will convey romance.

I was talking to a girl for months who I knew liked me but I literally just held her at arms length when I could've been flirty and when I finally realized I liked her I had spent too long not reciprocating and she had lost interest. Obviously you think she is interested so go for it and see what happens, I was scared of rejection by this girl that I didn't talk to her romantically for months but once I did, she responded in a way which showed that she did like me but I was just confusing myself.

One word of warning, do not text just this girl or speak to solely her because it will honestly frazzle your head, because you think of them all the time, 5 minute replies infuriate you and every song reminds you of them, keep it healthy and text 2-3 people or atleast keep yourself occupied and busy because you can get proper depressed overthinking your every interaction with them,
Original post by Anonymous
I really like this girl at my sixth form and we have been friends for 2 years. I want to pluck up the courage to ask her out face to face, but I don't know what to suggest we do.
Coffee?
Cinema?
A walk?
What would you like to be asked to do?


Id say coffee :smile:
I think places where you can't actually socialise should be avoided, such as going to the cinema. Also anything that may be formal or tense, such as a dinner. Going for a coffee is casual and sweet and a cute first date idea where you get a chance to have a chit chat and it makes the date more flexible too.
Good luck..
Netflix and Chill.



Jks. A nice walk would be nice, I've found or something like a mini day out into town can be cute, but then again, if you live in a desolate town, then maybe not :smile:
Original post by Lord Kitchener
Another thing that someone told me which is equally important is that if they like you they will find time to go out with you and spend time with you, if they repeatedly say they are busy then they aren't interested, no matter how much you feel otherwise, it's not going to happen.

That being said, you can't rely solely on them liking you and it requires effort to be romantic and do things which will convey romance.

I was talking to a girl for months who I knew liked me but I literally just held her at arms length when I could've been flirty and when I finally realized I liked her I had spent too long not reciprocating and she had lost interest. Obviously you think she is interested so go for it and see what happens, I was scared of rejection by this girl that I didn't talk to her romantically for months but once I did, she responded in a way which showed that she did like me but I was just confusing myself.

One word of warning, do not text just this girl or speak to solely her because it will honestly frazzle your head, because you think of them all the time, 5 minute replies infuriate you and every song reminds you of them, keep it healthy and text 2-3 people or atleast keep yourself occupied and busy because you can get proper depressed overthinking your every interaction with them,


Fantastic advice - I really respect that take on things. I have fallen into that trap before and have learnt from it. I think for the moment I'll put my studies first and not seem too desperate to get with her. Then hopefully, things will be left to happen naturally.
Original post by esraakdag
Id say coffee :smile:
I think places where you can't actually socialise should be avoided, such as going to the cinema. Also anything that may be formal or tense, such as a dinner. Going for a coffee is casual and sweet and a cute first date idea where you get a chance to have a chit chat and it makes the date more flexible too.
Good luck..


Thanks. :smile:
Original post by hxfsxh
Netflix and Chill.



Jks. A nice walk would be nice, I've found or something like a mini day out into town can be cute, but then again, if you live in a desolate town, then maybe not :smile:


Hahahaha. I live in Bedfordshire, so it's a bit crappy. But not too bad.

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