Parents were married at my age and I've never even had an LTR. Feel like a failure!

Hello,

I wanted to vent a little and get some advice.

I'm upset because at 25 I've never really had a proper relationship. I've only had one boyfriend who dumped me after a few months as he turned around and said he was 'not ready'.

I've been an adult for many years now and I've never had a guy interested in me whatsoever. I've never been asked out (asked the guy above out myself) or had a guy tell me he likes me. I don''t even go for the best guys I go for nerds and unattractive men but not even they want me.

Where could I be going wrong?

Thanks.

Why would you go for men that you aren't attracted to? Do you meet many guys in your day to day life?

You did have success when you asked that guy out. Have you tried asking any other guys out? Just wondering, since it seemed to work for you once at least.

If you're going for men you find attractive, you're never really going to have a serious relationship...

Because I liked their personalities. I go through peaks and declines in my social life in terms of meeting men depending on how busy I am. But I would have thought over the last 8 years I would have met someone I've had many hobbies, uni, societies, jobs, volunteering etc over the years but all guys look straight through me.

Yes I did recently and I got rejected. Still nursing that wound at the moment. I asked other guys out before (my first at 18) and got rejected by every single one apart from that one guy It hurts and I'm embarrassed it's getting to the point where I'm disgusted with myself. I just want to be like an average girl I'm not even asking to be anyone special.

I can confirm you are infact a failure.

I'm glad I gave you your kicks for the night then. Happy Valentine's Day

But surely if you like their personalities then they are attractive to you no? It's not just looks that can be considered attractive, you can be attracted to a person as a whole.

Have you liked any guys in that 8 years? Is there a reason you didn't ask them out? You perceive it as them not noticing you but maybe they did but were too shy/didn't feel they had the opportunity to say something. Any one of those guys could be thinking the same "every girl just looks through me" but you didn't, but he doesn't know that does he?

I'm glad I gave you your kicks for the night then. Happy Valentine's Day

A stupid question deserves a stupid answer.

You're not a failure. My friend met her boyfriend on Tinder and they're very happy. You should try it! Well probably not tinder but eharmony or match.com or something.

Ah sorry to hear that, was just wondering.

I'm a 23 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend, so I can empathise.

My life feels like such a failure lol.

Oh yes I found them attractive personality wise but not really physically but it always gets to the point where that doesn't matter. I think a lot of the time though I kind of make up their personality in my head... Like a fantasy or a projection. I think because they are kind of nerdy they will be sweet and caring but that's not always the case. Yeah sure I asked them out/told them I liked them and all but one did not feel the same. Even the one that said yes changed his mind within a few weeks.

You've got a strong will to keep going like that.

Honest of you to admit that, I think a lot of people do it though.

Me included.

Hello,

I wanted to vent a little and get some advice.

I'm upset because at 25 I've never really had a proper relationship. I've only had one boyfriend who dumped me after a few months as he turned around and said he was 'not ready'.

I've been an adult for many years now and I've never had a guy interested in me whatsoever. I've never been asked out (asked the guy above out myself) or had a guy tell me he likes me. I don''t even go for the best guys I go for nerds and unattractive men but not even they want me.

Where could I be going wrong?

Thanks.