I am a closeted homosexual heteroromantic. Ask me anything!

Anonymous #1

Ask me anything!

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Reply 1

whorace

I'm a special snowflake ama

Reply 2

Dinasaurus

Original post by whorace

I'm a special snowflake ama

Kind of a dick thing to say

Reply 3

Life_peer

Do you identify as mayonnaise?

Reply 4

whorace

Original post by Dinasaurus

Kind of a dick thing to say

Be yourself

Reply 5

Dinasaurus

Original post by whorace

Be yourself

Why are you telling me that? I am myself, clearly.

Reply 6

ivybridge

How can you be homosexual and heteroromantic...? Doesn't really make much sense to me but hey-ho. Could you explain it? :smile:

Oh and to all the commenters so far excluding @Dinasaurus, just because your vocabulary can't go beyond the word 'dick', don't feel the need to be one to others. Awesome.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 7

Vicky628

Have you got anybody in your life that you'd feel comfortable talking to about it?

Reply 8

Tai Ga

you're human

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Reply 9

MLPforever

When did you realise you were hetroroantic?

Reply 10

Dinasaurus

Original post by Tai Ga

you're human

/end thread

What is with you?

Reply 11

MLPforever

Original post by Tai Ga

you're human

/end thread

No, romantic orientation is a very real thing.

Reply 12

MLPforever

Original post by ivybridge

How can you be homosexual and heteroromantic...? Doesn't really make much sense to me but hey-ho.

Oh and to all the commenters so far excluding @Dinasaurus, just because your vocabulary can't go beyond the word 'dick', don't feel the need to be one to others. Awesome.

The same way someone can be asexual and be hetero/bi/homoromantic.

Reply 13

ivybridge

Original post by MLPforever

The same way someone can be asexual and be hetero/bi/homoromantic.

I think that's different though. I don't see how you can be homosexual - in-love with same-sex, solely - which is what homosexuality is, but only be in-love with the opposite sex, which would be what heteromanticism is? It's a complete contradiction. I'm very willing to have it explained to me though.

(edited 8 years ago)

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

You'll be fine, just carry on being yourself and at some point in the future either someone of the opposite sex will come along and they'll be so amazing that you'll fall head over heels in love for them so much that despite the fact you're not usually sexually attracted to that sex you won't be able to help yourself. Or someone of the same sex will come along and you'll fall for them so hard that you might actually envisage yourself in a relationship with them. Trust me, I know!

I think it may stem from possibly being a homosexual, but due to societal norms and pressures you won't ever feel (or think you won't) comfortable in a same sex relationship, because you've spent the last however many years thinking it isn't the "normal" thing to do. The most important thing to do is be honest with yourself and true to yourself and just accept life as it comes. Don't rush to label yourself either as then when that special someone does come along you don't want to think "well I thought I was attracted to this person but I can't be as I'm not usually" or "I really like this person, but couldn't possibly be in a relationship with them because that's not what I do"!

Hope this makes some sense!!

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Hey guys thanks for the replies/questions

I did expect negative comments but it's fine

No I haven't got anyone to talk about my feeling with since my family are south Asian, religious and take culture very seriously and I don't feel comfortable coming out to my group if friends.

Yes it is very real, I'm not one of those liberal Tumblr girls who rant on about this kind of stuff for attention (not saying all of them do or that it's a bad thing to do), I'm quite the opposite actually :/

I have had a relationship with a boy in the past (I'm male) and explained to him that I'm not attracted to him romantically which he was fine with and he just had sex. I did try my best to be attracted to him romantically but it just wasn't a natural feeling and I found it impossible to love him :/

I dream/fantasise about having a girlfriend who I can love and do romantic things couples do. I'm shy around girls I fancy too even though I have plenty of friends as girls. However I'm just not attracted to them sexually - trust me I've tried porn and it's just not the working girls just can't turn me on...

I made this thread to see if there people on here who are going through the same thing and need them to assure me that it's normal

Thanks :smile:

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

Original post by MLPforever

When did you realise you were hetroroantic?

Ever since I can remember haha

Original post by Anonymous

Thanks so much this is just what needed!
You're very right, maybe km tricking myself into thinking that I like girls because of my oppression as a homosexual :/ (rn marrying/being in love with a man disgusts me)
I've refrained from labelling myself until very recently but I'm thinking about it more and more that I feel like it's the only way I can organise my feelings

Thanks for the reply!

Reply 17

whorace

Original post by Anonymous

Yes it is very real, I'm not one of those liberal Tumblr girls who rant on about this kind of stuff for attention (not saying all of them do or that it's a bad thing to do), I'm quite the opposite actually :/

Good Lord don't mention these people here