I don't think I'm very attracted to my boyfriend

Then leave him...

If there is no attraction then it is unlikely to be a fulfilling relationship for you....

If there is no attraction then it is unlikely to be a fulfilling relationship for you....

I don't want to leave him over something like this. People always say personality > looks, looks will fade but his personality won't. I know that we compliment each other well personality-wise.

Lol this is why you are screwed if you are not good looking, even if you do get into a relationship all it takes is one confident guy and your out , although in your case it is probably more to do with your boyfriend being too shy to show you his affection, you say his personality is perfect but his insecurity and shyness clearly prevents him from giving you what you need.

You are staying with him because you care about what people say about personality when what you really want is both the personality and looks. You will never be happy with settling.

I'd feel like a selfish b*itch for leaving him over something superficial like this and it would break him and I don't want to lose someone as amazing as he is. I am content with the relationship and I would happily marry him in the future because he is somebody I honestly see a future with, it's just I tend to stumble upon guys like the one I'm working with currently, and feel so strongly attracted and wonder the relationship could be so different if I was as turned on by my boyfriend as I am with this guy. I'm just confused and a little frustrated.

I never fell for him for his looks, it was his personality because he really is one of the sweetest, trusting, most loyal and sincere guys out there and in terms of personality, I really couldn't do better than what I have and I'm grateful. He isn't bad looking at all, he has nice features but that's pretty much it, there is no sexual attraction here and the thought of being affectionate with him isn't bad, just very weird like crossing friend boundaries almost? He is very insecure/shy so he is never affectionate with me, he can't even hold my hand which hurts me a lot because I've always wanted to be with somebody who shows me affection physically, and we see so many other couples around, but he finds public affection 'awkward' and I don't, I don't mean making out intensely, just holding hands or hugging when we first see each other after ages, but no.

Recently, I've found myself really strongly attracted to my group partner, I've worked with him for about a month now, (I'd never even contemplate cheating by the way). I look at him and notice how gorgeous he is and fantasize randomly in my head before I have to block it out, I knew I was sexually attracted to him, and I've never felt like that with my boyfriend. I literally keep looking at this guy in awe, and feel butterflies and look forward to seeing him and it's strange. Obviously, with my group partner it's purely physical attraction and no emotional connection, it's just something I lack with my boyfriend. This is a fairly new relationship, should I just give it time? :/

I think it's more to do with that boundary with intimacy & affection, that's the main issue, the attraction can build with time.

Perhaps I'm just not being patient enough with him. I'm aware that he is shy so I think I just need to give him time to be more comfortable around me as opposed to tiptoe-ing around me and letting me call all the shots. I just get hurt when he acts like a stranger to me in public and feel envy when I see people in other relationships hugging, holding hands etc and not caring who is looking (mine cares a lot and literally tells me that he will not hug me because it looks 'awkward' in public).

However, now even if he was confident with being affectionate with me, I'm not sure I'd be comfortable with it myself anymore, I wanted it from him before but now it would just feel like I'm forcing him into being someone he isn't, it's just weird that he is so loving and affectionate over text, yet quite cold and distant in reality. Sorry I probably sound like such a mess, just a whole load of thoughts I was pondering over tonight.

Does he have somekind of phobia?
Because I really don't get why he doesn't like touching you or being intimate.

Ultimately your call to make.,
but how would you feel if he felt the same way, ie wasnt turned on by you and and fantasied about other girls he knew. if you're fine with that then carry on, but if you dislike that thought i personally feel it would be unfair to carry on and expect something from him that you yourself can't give.